Have you ever wondered if he thinks of you when you’re not there? Romantic comedies, magazines and age-old cultural assumptions have made generations of women wonder what men think when they are attracted to a woman.
Men can be as complicated as women and can often send you mixed signals when it comes to dating. If you’re wondering what your guy thinks about you and whether he really likes you, here are a few things you should know.
I spend a lot of time thinking about what men think (and why they do all kinds of confusing things) when they are in relationships.
One of the most common questions I get is: “What are the signs that a man likes you” and “What does a man think when he falls in love with me?”
Indeed, for a man to fall in love with you, he MUST think of you when you are not there. Men feel attracted and fall in love with your absence.
Here is a short journey into the mind of a man who really likes you:
1. “Tell me more.”
If a man really likes you, he will try to find out who you are on a deeper level.
You will not feel that he is ignoring you, blaspheming you, or glossing over what you have to say. He will listen, remember details, and ask you about things that are going on in your life. Getting to know you better will be a priority for him.
2. “Do you have plans for the weekend?”
A guy who likes you will make sure that he spends as much time with you as possible. He’ll be motivated to plan things in advance so he doesn’t miss an opportunity to see you.
He won’t contact you at the last minute, in the middle of the night, or when he knows you’re unavailable, and risk not seeing you.
3. “How’s your family?”
When a man starts to fall in love with you, he’ll want to know something about your tribe. He will be interested in which family you grew up in, whether you are religious or not and whether you had a good childhood.
He will also try to make a good impression on your friends and family. He will introduce you to his friends and think about introducing you to his mother.
How you fit into the overall picture will be important to him – especially if he is family-oriented. He will also patiently stick to these embarrassing stories from your childhood.
4. “What makes you really happy?”
Men who like you wonder how they can contribute to your happiness. Even if he doesn’t ask you directly, he will pay close attention to what inspires you – then he will try to do more of it. He will try to do things that he knows you will like.
When he falls in love with you, it makes him happy to make you shine.
5. “Does it expand my life?”
A man who is looking for a life partner will want to determine if you enrich his life. Men are aware that the women they choose for the long term will affect everything from where they live to their children.
If he really likes you, he’ll try to make sure you’re a safe person to share everything with.
6. “Does she respect me?”
It’s not so well known, but a big man’s secret is that your respect is even more important than your love. If he feels that you don’t really appreciate him for what he is, he won’t bond to you in the long run.
A man cannot fall in love with you unless you treat him with respect. This includes trusting him, solving his own problems and respecting the way he leads his life.
He has made it this far without you, so if you have now emasculated him or treated him as if you were the only thing holding him together, he will resent you at some point.
7. “Is she a happy person?”
Emotionally stable, healthy men are attracted to happy women like moths to a flame. The fact that you are already happy without him only makes him want to make you even happier.
Your personal happiness with or without him is a strong signal that he can be himself and you will still be happy. This is a win-win situation for both of you.
If you pull it down with negativity, it’s unlikely to stay close. Supporting a woman emotionally is quite tiring for men. It will hurt your relationship over time if you constantly leave out negative emotions.
Many men report that the reason why they finally left a woman was because she was constantly unhappy.
If you are happy alone and can calm yourself down, he will not be so worried that you will bring him down in difficult times.
8. “I really like you.”
The term “love” could be a big chunk for him right now – so he could just start telling you out loud that he likes you. If you care about him, he’ll want you to know so you don’t get wrong thoughts.
Since he is serious about you, he will want you to know.
9. “I want you all to myself.”
Every guy knows deep down that if he doesn’t win you over, another guy could. Trying to monopolize your time (within reason) and mentioning “where are we now” and all the things he thinks about shows that he likes you.
10. “I hope she doesn’t want to rush it.”
If a man really likes you and sees long-term potential with you, he’ll actually want you to take it slow when it comes to the bedroom.
He will put you on a small pedestal. He wants to feel that you are not sleeping with every man who crosses your path.
It’s old-fashioned, but if a man really likes you, he tries to make sure that you don’t feel pressured to have sex too soon, as that can upset you and ruin things. Your feelings will be the top priority.