There is a very narrow line between love bombing and true love. Someone who is truly in love behaves in a certain way. He will of course want to show you that too. He will behave quite differently than someone who uses the Love Bombing technique.
But it is not easy to spot Love Bombing. Love Bombing usually begins very harmoniously but often ends in disaster. Narcissists and sociopaths use this technique very often. Because they want to attract their “victim” in order to gain power over this person afterwards. Therefore you should be able to interpret the warning signals well, so as not to be disappointed later.
Here are the 7 most common signs that it’s Love Bombing, not true love:
HE WANTS TO TAKE HUGE STEPS
Sometimes it seems too good to be true. In this case it will be like that. Men who use Love Bombing are ready to bond with you and tell you that they love you above all else. They want you to get to know their family directly and become part of their lives.
In this case, your alarm bells should come on, because that can be dangerous. It would be healthy to take your time and get to know each other slowly. If you want to progress slowly and get to know each other better on deeper levels, it is a good sign. Otherwise, you should be careful.
HE PRAISES YOU FREQUENTLY AND MAKES YOU TOO MANY COMPLIMENTS
He tells you that you are so beautiful and s*xy. Plus, you’re smart and sweet at the same time, and he keeps telling you how perfect you are. He drives it to the extreme? Then you should also perceive this behavior as a sign that he is a love bomber.
He’ll keep telling you how much he loves you and tells you that he misses you when you’re out the front door. Then he posts photos of you and romantic love songs on social media.
As soon as you feel uncomfortable, you should rather listen to it. Of course, compliments are always welcome. But sometimes it just gets too much, especially if he has not known you long.
HE SHOWERED YOU WITH GIFTS
Some Love Bombers will shower you with gifts. Then every time you see it, it has a little something for you. Here are some fresh flowers and a bar of chocolate. Eventually, things suddenly become expensive and you feel bad already, since you almost never give anything back to him. There is something lazy, believe me!
HE ALMOST ALWAYS TELLS YOU THE RIGHT THING
Men and women are usually very different. That’s why both can not usually understand each other right away. Love bombers, however, try to create this directly. That’s why they’ll always tell you what you want to hear. They are intelligent and use their intelligence as well.
You want to take advantage of your insecurity and manipulate yourself. That’s why they stick to every single word you say. Because it might be useful for you to use it against you later.
YOU FEEL THAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS KNOWN HIM
You may even feel that he is your soulmate and you just belong together. You think that there is a connection between you that you can not build with anyone else.
Ask yourself if you really know him. How much did he tell you about his family and friends? Stay realistic and do not let yourself be misled.
HE DOES NOT LIKE IT IF YOU ASK HIM QUESTIONS
Of course, you’ll ask him how he knows he loves you, and you’ll doubt if it’s not a bit of a hurry. If he becomes defensive, as soon as you question him, it can also be a sign that he is not really in love. Because otherwise he would know an answer. In fact, he does not like these questions and could even get angry.
- He is jealous of everything and everyone
He makes you feel guilty about doing something with your friends or leaving alone? Then this is also a clear indication that his love is not genuine. He could be a love bomber. He will continue to make you feel guilty and eventually you will adapt and do or leave things for him. A little jealousy is of course quite normal.
Sometimes it is not easy to find out if someone is really in love. You should therefore always pay careful attention to the warning signals. So you can avoid being disappointed later. Trust in your feelings and act when you realize that something is wrong. You should not stay in a situation where you are not comfortable.