2 secrets why men come back after breaking contact with them.
Why do men come crawling again? In the meantime, the no-contact rule has become very well known. It’s not intuitive, but it somehow works like magic. Why do men come back after they stop contacting them? Why is it so effective?
One thing is certain: understanding human nature will help you achieve your goal. But you should also know that the whole thing requires a lot of perseverance and patience. So let’s take a look at why this method is so powerful.
DOES THIS RULE REALLY WORK IN MEN?
If you’ve just been through a breakup and still want to be with your ex, you’re likely to panic easily if you think about losing him forever. You instinctively want to do everything in your power to get close to him, to make him realize that you care for him, and to make him believe in your future again.
Unfortunately, in most cases, it doesn’t work that way. People separate for different reasons: communication problems, cheating, lies and so on, but professing your undying love won’t fix the underlying problems. Also, now would be the absolute worst time to suffocate your ex with your love. Trust me, he’ll feel overwhelmed and want to run away from you as soon as possible.
This is where the no-contact order comes into play. Before I go any further, I would like to briefly explain what that is. This technique consists of interrupting contact with your ex for a certain period of time (usually between three weeks and three months). That means no calls, no texts, nothing! I know that browsing Facebook and Instagram is tempting to see what he’s up to, but it won’t do you any good. There are two goals when it comes to applying this rule.
On the one hand, you should use this time to focus on improving your life. And on the other hand, you will make sure that he will miss you.
You now have to make your life what you always wanted. When we are in relationships, we sometimes get lost in them. It’s not uncommon for you to stop doing things that used to make you happy, neglect hobbies and passions, spend less time with friends and family, and get into a routine. It is also common to stop caring about your body and channeling all of your energy into the relationship. Yes, it’s good to make a relationship with one of his top priorities, but it shouldn’t be your only one!
So go to the gym or exercise, get back in touch with friends you haven’t seen in a while, and try new activities. Invite positivity back into your life. Think of the following: in with the new, out with the old!
Start going out with your friends and don’t be afraid to meet new people. Use social media to your advantage and post pictures of all the fun things you did. Show how you live your best life, enjoy the company of people who make you happy, and do all sorts of interesting new activities.
YOU WILL SEE THAT SOMETHING VERY INTERESTING WILL HAPPEN.
First of all, your confidence will increase. You will feel better (because we all know that after separation, the ego can take quite a blow). You will feel better in your body and you will feel like you have more control over the situation.
He either searches your pictures on social media or your mutual friends tell him that you look fantastic and that you are enjoying life to the full. He probably expected you to withdraw into your house in self-pity and sadness. But you actually live a life that looks incredibly appealing. In fact, it looks so appealing that he would wish he was still part of it.
So this rule makes it clear to a man that the woman doesn’t need him to be happy. There is nothing clingy or suffocating about you and if you improve your life you will remind your ex of the person he has fallen in love with before. In fact, you will be a new and improved version of her, which makes you irresistible.
WHY DO MEN COME BACK WITHOUT CONTACT AFTER A WHILE?
The key to this method is to fill your schedule with all sorts of new and exciting things so you don’t let your thoughts trick you into writing it. If you focus on bringing positivity into your own life, you will see that things gradually make sense.
I will now explain a simple element of human nature. The no-contact rule to get him back works because he becomes curious about what you’re going to do and is attracted to how happy you look. He will recognize that you live a life that he would like to participate in. He will see that you are emotionally independent and will be the best version of yourself. Men recognize that this benefits a relationship.
Another reason is: it is human nature to miss what we no longer have, even though we once had it. If something is suddenly taken away from us that we consider “our”, we want it back immediately. A man will want you back as soon as he fears losing you.
So when using this method, make sure that you are diligent and don’t give in to the temptation to get back in touch after just a few days. At the same time, make your life what you always wanted and show him that he missed you! This is a great opportunity, not only for your relationship but also for yourself!