Do you fall in love with the villain or the hero?
If you run into the same type of guy over and over again, over and over again, this post is for you.
There are things we should know about our own character and personality that make us susceptible to attracting and sticking with imbalanced partners.
If the type of man you attract has a tendency to break your heart over and over again, it’s important to pay attention to what draws you to that person in the first place.
This can help you bring healthier people into your life.
Here are eight different types of guys and what a date with them might say about you.
1. Mr. Narcissist
His charm, talent, success, beauty, and charisma cast a spell over you and everyone else.
His conversation is colorful. If you have him on the hook, you struggle with his demands, his criticism, and his egocentricity.
What it could mean to be attracted to a guy like this:
You’re also narcissistic. When you’re a narcissist, the common misconception is that you love yourself. In reality, you don’t like yourself at all.
Your inflated self-love, perfectionism, and arrogance are just a cover for self-loathing that you don’t admit – usually even towards yourself.
Narcissists often attract each other and this is very dangerous. One minute they need each other and the next minute they fight over whose needs come first.
You can cure your narcissism, it just takes a lot of courage, time, and dedication.
2. Mr. Emotionally Unreachable
He doesn’t look too eager when he meets you. He’s full of excuses and undecided. He talks a lot about his past.
He’s quick to claim that he likes you, but he’s not looking for a committed relationship for whatever reason.
What it could mean to be attracted to this type of man:
You feel you don’t deserve it. The feeling of being unworthy typically arises because someone important failed to stand up for you earlier in life.
Someone who was essential to the support of your life wasn’t there or was abusive or neglectful.
As a result, you had developed a deep sense of unworthiness.
To correct this trait, it is important to start by confronting (and often forgiving) the person who originally disappointed you.
3. Mr. Needs to be fixed
He feels “under” you. To you, it’s a diamond in the rough.
The man standing in front of you today isn’t great, but he sure has potential. A date with him feels like a project.
What it could mean to be attracted to this type of man:
You often apologize for something or what someone else did.
That is why you enter most relationships with the utmost patience and a tool kit ready to get everything right.
This trait is mostly the result of overcompensation for a mistake or mistake in your own life.
To truly prove that you are someone worth dating, you should stop trying to catch up on what you either missed or did in your past.
4. Mr. Connection Phobics
He has a history of brief relationships and may never have been married. He has several excuses for not meeting the right woman.
He justified his story by saying that he had plenty of time to settle down. One of his favorite lines is “one day”.
What it could mean to be attracted to this type of man:
You are needy. Being very needy, be it emotional or otherwise, means attracting men who feel the need to “save” (but not necessarily attach to) a woman.
Being needy means that no matter how little or infrequent it is, you will thrive on the attention you get from men.
This is often seen in women whose previous relationships came to an abrupt end.
To meet a safe man who wants to bond, you need to be a safe woman who upholds her “relationship values”.
5. Mr. Parasite
He gets help at your expense, and if you help him you often put yourself in danger. Neither you nor the relationship benefits from what he takes from you.
What it could mean to be attracted to this type of man:
You are insecure. Being insecure and having low self-esteem can attract needy and clingy men who will take advantage of you.
It is important that your self-esteem is in order before you start dating so that it sends a message to parasitic men that you don’t need them.
Women who are confident with themselves are less likely to attract parasitic men.
6. Mr. Bully
He blames you for things that are not your fault. He talks to you like a child.
He uses an affecting tone towards others when asking for help. He criticizes your character and possibly even your children.
What it could mean to be attracted to this type of guy:
You have trouble maintaining emotional boundaries. You instinctively do not know where to draw the lines of emotional responsibility between yourself and others.
You try to win other people over by pleasing them or by putting yourself in a favorable light, to your disadvantage.
This borderline problem usually comes from bearing the burden of other people’s emotions for which you are not responsible.
When you become clear about where you should take responsibility and where your emotional responsibility ends, you can deal better with the limits.
7. Mr. Cuckoo
He’ll be fine with everything you say. He has low self-esteem and no self-confidence. He is unable to express or argue his opinions or wishes.
What it could mean to be attracted to this type of man:
You’re a controlling woman who tends to make it seem like she’s got her temper under control.
When you are a controlling woman, you easily attract (or should I say seek and find) shy men.
These men love you because they see in you elements of maturity that they do not have.
Unfortunately, most of these men never evolve and instead constantly take on the role of “yes-sayers”.
If you are that type of woman, it is best to stay away from these types of men and stick with more complementary personalities.
8. Mr. Already Forgiven
He is married, engaged, or in a relationship with another woman. Please note that even if he is separated from his wife, it still means that he is married.
What it could mean to be attracted to this type of man:
You have low self-esteem and no self-love.
Whatever the pretext, when you are in a “relationship” with someone who is in a different relationship, you are showing one of the lowest forms of self-love and self-respect.
When you “date” a cheater, you are really a cheater yourself and you are likely to be derogatory to those closest to you.
Your family and friends may have raised concerns about who you are with, and as a result, your relationship with them has become strained.
While I don’t think friends and family are the best relationship experts, if they all tell you the same thing, listen!
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