You fall in love. You are like on a cloud. You forget your problems. You see life in pink and you only think of him.
Then, suddenly, you start feeling something you did not feel before.
You feel that your man is not the same as before and you can not get rid of this horrible sensation.
How familiar are you?
Well, that’s what happens in many relationships and all women would die to hear advice that could help them solve this problem.
So if your man has stopped paying attention to you and you feel crappy, here’s what you can do:
1. Leave it alone for a moment
The worst you can do is force him to tell you what’s going on with him. In this way, you risk making things worse.
Instead, leave him alone. Yes, you heard me well.
Leave him alone so he can think about his life and the things he wants. Do not affect it in any way.
Do not call him, do not send him messages and most importantly, do not insist on seeing him if he is not ready for it.
Once he has spent some time alone, he will know if he wants to be with you or if he wants to continue his life without you.
The fact is, you can not influence his decision, so it’s better that you leave him alone because he knows what’s best for him.
2. When he returns, act as a friend, not as an enemy
It is true that you are not guilty of things that happen to him, but as his beloved, you must stay with him in his good times as in the bad ones.
Especially in the bad ones.
So, if something like this has happened to him, do not shoot hasty conclusions, but be clever.
You will not get anything if you behave like an enemy.
Talk to him more like a friend and tell him that you understand that he is going through a crisis, but that you also want to help him.
That way, he’ll know he can count on you the next time he’s going through something wrong.
3. Once he’s back to “normal mode”, ask him why he was like that
When your man has decided that you are the one he wants to be with, you can ask him why he was gone.
You deserve to know the answers and you should get them. Because you ended up wondering why this is so and how to help it.
It was you who spent sleepless nights looking at the laptop screen hoping he would call.
I do not say that he did not suffer, but you suffered too, especially since you did not know what happened.
So you have the right to ask him why he did it and why he did not allow you to help him.
If he loves you, he will be open to everything and if he tells you he does not want to talk about it, you should think twice if you want to be with a man who does not trust you.
4. Remember that you have a life even if it is not there
If your man has decided to go away, that does not mean that you have to focus on him alone.
Concentrate on yourself and your life, especially if you’re not sure he’ll come back someday.
You can not lose sleep because of a man who does not want you to know anything about him.
You can not help him if he does not allow it. Be patient enough and continue to live your life normally.
If he comes back, you can talk about what happened with him and decide if there is a future for both of you. Any problem can be solved if there is good will.
So, in the end, it’s up to him to decide whether he will come back or not and it’s up to you to decide whether you will cry every night or whether you will continue to live your life proudly.
5. Always put yourself in first place, no matter how much you like it
It hurts when your man walks away, but that’s no reason for you to stop worrying about everything else.
You should always get started, no matter how much you like it.
It’s good to help if you want, but it’s not a good idea to worry about someone who is not sure about you.
You will end up being hurt that way and, believe me, you do not want that to happen. If he has in problems, try to be with him if he lets you.
In doing so, you show him that you love him and that he can always count on you.
But if he intends to do so all the time, you should not stand him. You should take care of yourself when he is not doing it.
You should build your happiness without him and not depend on him to be happy.
Only when you realize that you will be really happy.