Love is not predictable, and you are almost defenseless. In the beginning, everything seems to be perfect and you feel as if you will spend your whole life together. You swear that you will always love each other.
But unfortunately, the reality is usually very different. Because sometimes everything can change abruptly and no matter what you do about it, you have to realize at some point that it just does not work anymore. You always have to work on your relationship and invest in it again and again. This sometimes requires one or the other victim.
The obstacles that get in your way in your relationship, you must necessarily overcome them together, otherwise it looks bad for you. Fight for what’s important to you and do not just give up. Only true fighters can achieve something in their relationships and rescue them in an emergency.
However, there are also situations in which one should not continue to hold on to a relationship and simply has to give up.
Because you can not enforce love or rekindle the passion all alone. If these things are missing then you definitely should not try to fix the relationship. You have to recognize yourself when the time has come to let your partner go.
Because it does not matter how hard you try to convince your partner. You will not be happy in the end and break yourself. So you should recognize the signs as early as possible, so you do not have to suffer so long.
Of course it will be hard at the beginning to let your partner go. But believe me, you will eventually realize that you have done the right thing.
When these things apply to you, you should no longer cling to the relationship:
- You do not share interests
If your interests are too far apart, you should seriously ask yourself if that makes sense with you at all. If you are just not on the same wavelength and have completely different opinions or tastes, there will always be issues that you can not solve.
Because you can not enforce interests or just change them. Thus, your relationship can only fail. You should therefore end the relationship early.
- Your arguments always revolve around the same topics
Do you have the feeling that you are spinning in a circle? You argue and then you come to terms again. For a brief moment everything seems to be perfect again between you. But after the foreseeable future, it will come back to clashes. How long should this continue?
Especially when it comes to the same topics, you should not wait much longer. Because this is a sign that you are moving on the spot and are no longer making progress. If you can not grow together and manage things like adults, you should not waste your time.
- He depends on you
Needy men do not always behave the same way. For neediness can occur in various forms. For example, making him the center of his life may indicate that he is very dependent on you. Often this can be confused with love.
But in fact, this is simply an indication that he can not live without you. Emotional dependence is not love. You will notice that you have fewer and fewer free spaces from time to time. In addition, the pressure to be responsible for his happiness will continue to increase. Do you really want that?
- You can not trust him anymore
Do you have the feeling that he is not as in love as you are? Maybe he has hurt you more often and maybe he has apologized for that too. But if he continues anyway with the behavior that hurts you, you should soon pull the ripcord.
You just can not trust him anymore. Trust is fundamental to any relationship. When there is no basis of trust, a relationship no longer makes sense. Because you will never be able to rely on this person.
- You are more concerned about him than he cares about you
If the relationship between giving and taking is not balanced in your relationship, that should not be cause for alarm. It is perfectly normal that this relationship can not always be balanced.
But if you feel that you have been investing much more in the relationship for a very long time than you, you should ask yourself if he would like to continue the relationship at all.
A relationship can only work if the two pull together and everyone does something for it!
- He is superior to you
There are people who feel intimidated by their partner. Do you also sometimes think that your partner is superior to you, then you should question your relationship once.
You should not feel that you are not good enough for him. Because that will not make you happy in the long run. It can even happen that you lose yourself because you try to make everything right for him. Do not let it get that far!
- You are just not happy anymore
Are you unhappy in your relationship? Is your relationship more of hatred and strife? Are you sometimes even depressed about your partner? These are all signs that this relationship is unhealthy and should take you away from your partner as soon as possible. If someone really loves you, he would not want you to be unhappy. He would recognize this and fight for your love.