Life is not as bad as we sometimes want it to be. Life gives us more than it does not take away. In love, for example, we should recognize the amount of opportunities we have to look for it, find it, keep it … But we strive to always blame someone, the other, family, friends, work … life . Well no. Most of the time, the only ones to blame for what happens to us are us. Do you want to know how you ruin your chances of finding love ? You alone? Keep reading and you will see.
Aries, your strong character, together with your impatience, make a perfect but explosive mix to ruin many relationships. Think that when it comes to people, you have to take into account their desires, their interests, their needs … not only yours count. You are not ahead of anyone, in any case you would be on par. And believing yourself with some personal rights above those of the other person is what spoils your relationships. Because also, when you do not get what you want, you get so angry that you lose your mind, because of the ways (if you were right, sometimes you are not). Come on, a mess. You make the other person feel like a tiny bug next to you, and that won’t work in the long run. Admiration quickly turns to disappointment. You persuade the first Why do you spoil it so quickly by bringing out the worst in you when there is so much good to come out? For authentic, come on!
Your possessiveness is the biggest problem in your relationships, Taurus. And you know. The worst part is that you think being so possessive is good. That how you are out of love, because you want to protect the relationship, because you don’t want anything to cloud it… but it isn’t. People are not things that you own, and besides, you wouldn’t want them to do the same to you. Relationships like this don’t work even though it may seem that they do, because it exists as an invisible prison that makes the other person feel trapped. That he wants to get out of there, but since you tell him that it is out of love and he wants to believe you… well he stays and endures what you throw at him, but inside he suffers and is not well. You, Taurus, are not one of the people who likes to be manipulated, or sold weird ideas, you want them to trust you … then do the same. It doesn’t matter what you ask. And if you want to be possessive do it, but explain why, explain the truth, don’t lie in the name of love and relationship. It is your personal problem. And period.
Gemini, you ruin your chances of finding love by showing two faces. Yes, it is true, it is your essence, and everyone has it, but fight against the dark side of their way of being. You, for example, are independent and your partners so you make it clear, and then you are not so much. It is as if mentally you were more pushed forward than later at the moment of truth. As if your optimism makes you see everything in pink and then you realize that there are many grays around you. You are successful in your relationships because you are someone who is happy to whom everything seems good, and who always sees something good in every problem. But as sometimes reality prevails and life gives problems, admitting it gives you a slump, and you see yourself with less strength than you have. Your mind returns to control you and decide for you, and you become vulnerable, dependent … And the worst thing is that you can’t think of a better way to solve it than by throwing yourself into the street, and you evade, to feel good and forget the problem. But you have to face problems, not avoid them, don’t you think?
Always wanting to manipulate your relationships and the people you are with is not good for you Cancer. Because also, that dark side of you contrasts with your most loving, caring and protective side. And create some confusion in the other person, because if you ask him to change so much, it is because you do not like anything about that person. Or so it seems. And then why did you get into that relationship? So much demand creates anxiety for the other person … and mistrust. Think about it, Cancer, you show mistrust, and you end up creating mistrust in the other person as well. Likewise, you ask and you ask, and although it seems that it is because of the relationship, it seems that you are only thinking about your own interests. And there is still more, that if the subject does not come out how you want, you turn it around and become the victim. And of course, so your partner or that special person is on guard and prepares. And maybe to do something you don’t like. Think about it. You have it very easy, because you know how to adapt when you want, and if you don’t, it is because you square off and there is no one who can with you.
With your strong personality, Leo You persuade, conquer, fall in love… but when that strong character shows its dark side, you become someone superb who wants to impose himself at all costs. And if you don’t get it, you get angry and break the deck. Either you play what you want, when you want and how you want, or you don’t. Understand that your couples with more personality and character may be amused by your desire to dominate, but other couples with a calmer character are going to be horrified by such arrogance. And you will make your relationships become a I want and I cannot, because first you attract in an irresistible way. But when you bring out that dark side, you produce rejection. And from there the relationship can become a battlefield, to see who wins. That you will want to be you. Because you can be stubborn and domineering like no other.
Do you know virgo How do you ruin your chances of finding love? Because of your desire for perfection, because of your need to control what happens according to your script. Because for you everything is governed by a plan, and a relationship too. And if the relationship does not go as you had planned, you start to boycott it, suddenly you are distant, then you come back, you move away again … Think that relationships are not things and people are not machines programmed to function. Any mistake in the program already makes you stagger, and your immediate reaction is to drag the relationship to where you feel most comfortable. If it’s with more distance, that’s what you do. And you leave the other person wondering what happened, not knowing that your head does not stop analyzing data, as if it were an FBI computer. And as instead of leaving you opt for the attack, to that partner or possible partner,
Libra, you know your indecision gives you problems. You know that many plans, jobs and relationships slow down because you can’t decide, sometimes you don’t decide to take a step forward and other times you don’t decide to take a step back. And you get stuck in the middle, and blocking the situation. When you are in a relationship or meeting someone, there always comes that moment of doubt that hugs you, imprisons you and prevents you from acting. You don’t know if you want to move on with that person; if you have a relationship, you don’t know if you want to go further, if you commit yourself, if you even leave it… a sea of doubts always surrounds you. You are afraid of what that person might think, you don’t want to do anything, you don’t want to influence them … come on, Libra, it’s like you neither eat nor stop. You don’t want anything to change if you think that’s forcing, and deep down, You end up forcing many situations because you do not decide to one side or the other. Think of the symbolic balance of your sign, nailed in the center, so you stay. And that person, according to what he sees in you, will begin to distance himself, thinking that you do not want him, when deep down what you want is for everything to remain in balance, as if any step to one side or the other would spill one of the balance pans.
Scorpio, your enormous sense of independence and that strength with which you dominate life, may be a handicap to find love, or to maintain it in case you have a partner. You always talk about how intense you love, about your capacity for passion, about your suffering for having to tame your emotions all the time … you always sell your passion, but above it is your dominant character, and no matter how much you love , do not bend. In the couple you have to set the guidelines, you want to know everything about the other person but you don’t want to talk about yourself or what you like or don’t like. You don’t want to seem in love but you want the other person to open their heart for you without limits. If you love so much, if you feel so much, let your partner see it, do not hide behind your strong character so that he does not see how vulnerable you are, sensitive or in love. Open up! Don’t be so afraid of being hurt.
Sagittarius, if you think too much about what each relationship means, what each person inspires you, and what falling in love can mean, you will be putting the brakes on love. You will be boycotting a possible relationship with the future. You like your life so much, you like yourself so much, that many potential partners see them as a threat to your life, to your way of being, to your freedom. You anticipate problems, you see them where there are none. For you, having many feelings makes you feel vulnerable and you want to apply the band-aid before it has hurt. Bad past relationships are not good for you, of course. And your usual optimism is clouded by thinking that something is going to go wrong if you don’t put some distance. You want to control everything and in matters of love not everything can be controlled. You want the other person to open their heart for you to see what there is, but then you don’t want me to have feelings for you if you haven’t given the go-ahead. Stop imposing yourself, go!
If you never forgive or forget, it is difficult for your relationship to continue, or that when you are starting with someone, you can move forward. Capricorn, you are too hard with everything, it is true that you are in life. And that you do it not to suffer, to get what you want, it is a shield … but in love matters, you have to loosen up, you have to lower a little that being on guard continuously. If anything your partner does to you, any dislike, any affront, you consider unforgivable, it will be difficult to maintain the relationship. You have to be more forgiving of the mistakes of others, if you want to be hard on yourself, do it, but the rest are not as strong as you, nor are they prepared to live as in continuous training. What happens to you is that it is difficult for you to solve emotional problems, you repress yourself, you want to appear invulnerable, and when in doubt of being soft and serving as a precedent, you go to the extreme and tense the rope too much. If your partner does not see more understanding, or warmth, only distance and resentment, it will be difficult for her to continue excited, in any case she will move away from you so as not to suffer and not to become even more frustrated with you.
Aquarius, you have a hard time expressing what you feel, and this is how you ruin your chances of finding love. With you, your partner or that person with whom you are fooling around, they do not know if they can take a step forward or if they have to take two steps back, or if they have to stay stuck in place waiting for a signal from you. Because sometimes you neither do nor stop doing. You want freedom and you want to be able to move at your own pace, and when the other person takes the initiative you put yourself on guard. In your head there is too much logic, Aquarius, which is very good for life in general, but in love matters it slows you down and restricts you. That special person will admire you for your active mind and because you are not someone who does not go crying around the corners. But perhaps he does not understand so much that any feeling always goes through the head and little through the heart. She will fear that you are not very understanding with what she feels, that you are not going to understand her, that you are not going to commit yourself, that what awaits you with a lot of detachment and few romantic details. And he will lose hope and perhaps it is when he takes those steps back, many, and moves away.
You are too emotional, Pisces, admit it. You take things so seriously and let them see that EVERYTHING affects you so much, that the other person feels overwhelmed by your feelings and sensitivity. Deep down you like drama a bit, and you like the anticipation that you create with some tensions in your relationship. You exploit your sensitive vein but in an exaggerated plan. And when your partner does something that annoys you, you stage a drama on him, and you convince him that he has hurt you, but you know that it is not true. That you suffer, yes, but not so much, besides that you are stronger than you show. Of course, your partner hurts you, not once, but many times, but you take it to the extreme and you respond with a kind of subtle and psychological attack that sinks her. Leave these strategies for real enemies, with your partner do not abuse because they will think they do not understand you, and as it is blocked, it is unable to make you happy or to be happy by your side. Crying is good, but when the drama is excessive, your partner is baffled. Nobody wants to live at all times not to hurt you, not to know how to treat you.