Learn to free your heart
Sometimes Cupid flies where he is not expected, shoots his arrow without looking, and as a result misses and hits the wrong person.
Thus, an unrequited love begins…
Unrequited love is the name given to that feeling of one-sided affection that we can feel more often than we think.
It is said that you are four times more likely to experience an unrequited love than an equal and complete relationship.
Think of the number of songs, films and books based on this distressing feeling…
This feeling of rejection and the questions that go with it
If you love someone who doesn’t love you back, it may feel like the pain is self-inflicted.
You know that this person owes you nothing, that they did nothing wrong, and yet you feel a pain in your chest that won’t go away.
You break your heart and don’t know how to stop it.
Maybe you might start wondering what’s wrong with you.
It’s tempting to scrutinize ourselves, looking for the slightest flaw that makes us seemingly undesirable.
And it’s hard to accept that sometimes the chemistry just isn’t on our side.
The romantic fantasies we have entertained then end up shattered.
No one plans to fall in love without sharing. Desperation can therefore grab you by the throat when things don’t turn out the way you expected or hoped.
Romantic rejection not only leaves emotional scars, it can also cause physical pain and even illness.
This grief is in fact so stressful that those who have recently suffered bereavement, a breakup or other psychological trauma are at a higher risk of heart attack and physical pain.
Our bodies and our emotions are closely linked.
Unrequited love can make you stronger though
Obsession, harassment and violence: the benefits of unrequited love are hard to believe. But there are, in fact, advantages.
Unrequited love can be a helpful, even critical, part of people’s “life journey.”
The path to personal development is a process of learning who you are and what you need to be happy.
It is also the path to creating a healthy and reciprocal relationship.
The most important lesson to learn about unrequited love is how to interpret it.
If you are having a negative romantic experience and you interpret it to mean that you are unworthy of love and will never receive the love you want, you may be creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.
But if on the other side, you consider it as a learning experience and you keep this new knowledge preciously, you will grow out of it.
You have to believe in something before you can meet it.
Unrequited love can serve as a driving force
Creativity and self-compassion grow and lead to greater self-awareness.
Overcoming the obsession forces a shift in our perspective.
To free our heart, we must develop a fulfilling relationship with ourselves.
Ultimately, this love could become the catalyst for change.
When you love someone, you get a surge of energy and passion that sparks your creativity.
Shared love has created many world famous masterpieces!
So many reasons to exploit this feeling and take new steps in your life.
No matter what you do, you can use inspiration to improve yourself both privately and professionally.
For example, unrequited love might inspire you to pay more attention to your work, increasing your productivity.
Hold on to this opportunity because it can help you realize your full potential.
The many faces of unrequited love
Unrequited love can take different forms.
It can involve loving someone who doesn’t return those feelings, secretly pining for someone who isn’t available.
It can also be a mutual attraction between people who are both in another relationship, still feeling desire for an ex after a relationship ends, etc.
There are signs that can help you understand what’s going on and if the love you feel for someone is reciprocated.
People usually describe this feeling as receiving “mixed signals” about a mutual love interest, only to find out later that it’s actually unrequited love.
Here are also some aspects to consider.
Are you the only person trying to communicate? Are you the only one contacting the other person to see how their day is going or to find out more about their life?
When you’re the only one taking the time to reach out and connect with the other person, follow up with them on things, or inquire about their life, it can be a sign that that love isn’t working. is not shared.
Two partners who care about each other are motivated to connect and share smooth and healthy communication.
The exchange of energy between partners in a healthy relationship presents itself as balanced. He doesn’t let one person take responsibility for reaching out to the other.
Research has shown that people who reject the affection of others often experience guilt.
Thus, those who reject tend to see their “frozen lovers” as unreasonable, living in fantasy and boring.
Lovers, on the other hand, tend to view the object of their desire as mysterious and incoherent.
Our desire for connection includes physical contact. When people are mutually attracted, both parties seek to connect on a physical level.
If you find that you are always the one initiating physical contact or that when you try to physically connect you encounter resistance or the other person pulls away, this may indicate that it is a desire. unilateral.
It is not uncommon in situations of unrequited love for one person to put the other on a pedestal.
The love interest is perceived as nearly perfect and any imperfections are easily explained.
Rarely are there healthy boundaries set in unrequited love.
When people build a healthy romantic bond, they can always see each other’s flaws, vulnerabilities, or imperfections.
Healthy relationships allow people to make mistakes. They provide an opportunity to create closer ties.
Each party can see and hear each other and talk about their areas of vulnerability.
But in an unrequited love dynamic, only the emotionally invested person is able to see and hear the other party.
There is no healthy mutual recognition in this type of love.
How to move forward?
Whatever form your unrequited love takes, it can become dangerous to your mental health if it persists.
Giving love and not “getting it back” can lead to depression and anxiety.
It can also escalate into more destructive ways and lead to behaviors that include violence or self-harm.
If you experience this, it is important to talk to a therapist or healthcare professional.
But know that it is possible to heal, to grow, and to go through this experience in one piece.
It’s important not to take the other person’s lack of feelings personally because it probably has more to do with them than with you.
Once you can accept the reality of the situation, you can gain distance and perspective.
Love yourself no matter what they say.
Love your personality, respect yourself, accept yourself as you are. You are a self-sufficient person.
It’s hard to argue with your heart. But there is no love that cannot live without being recharged from both sides.
Romance, trust, tenderness, common interests and love are the sources of energy for shared love where fantasy alone sustains that of unrequited love.
And you have two choices here: wait for this weak energy source to discharge or turn it off deliberately.
If you choose the second option, you can finally embark on the journey towards a healthy and reciprocal love.