Why You Are Afraid Of Commitment
The fear of commitment is something normal that we all have in our love relationships. A little at the beginning, yes. What is not so normal is always being afraid of commitment. And that this conditions some of our relationships. By signs, some assume the commitment as something normal, even desired, and adapt it to their life. Other signs panic or overly respect you, and avoid it until they have no choice but to come to terms with it (or not). According to your sign, why are you afraid of commitment?
Because you don’t want to lose your freedom, it’s that simple with you, Aries. For you, having a partner always implies a “let’s do this together” that makes you feel lazy that you’re dying. Because of course you like to do things as a couple, but they are always more than you want. And when they organize your agenda for the week with plans, you start fuming from your ears. And you get overwhelmed by not knowing how to say no, and you stay or go where your partner wants, and you get bored and you want to go. And then there is the problem that as you do not know how to hide because, on top of having gone where you did not feel like it, you end up seeing yourself in a nose fight. Because you can take what you can, but if they ask you with irony or your partner gets angry at seeing your bad face, it is that you explode and everything that you shut up before you release it like an erupting volcano.
Because you don’t want your heartbroken. The answer is simple. There have been several times that it has been broken and that pain has been etched in your soul. It is a feeling of failure that is difficult to assimilate that remains in your memory, and the memories stir your heart, and from there you can close yourself off to get into serious relationships (at least for a while). As you also think that many times it has been the fault of having chosen the person wrong, it is difficult for you to trust the people you meet, it is difficult for you to relax. And you can be alone longer than you want, but because you are not to go around frivolling a lot, waiting for someone to remove the foundations. So you stay with your loneliness, waiting, calm / a, that you are not bad at all. And if you trust something is when life surprises you. That is not easy, you think, but hey, you never know.
Because it is difficult for you to share your privacy. And yes, perhaps it may seem incongruous given the great sociability you spend. But it is as if from the outside you could 200%, but from the inside, it was something else. A commitment is a big word, or you understand it that way. And it demands a certain respect. And look, there are times when you jump into all kinds of relationships, with a clear conscience of having been sincere about who you are and what you are. But of course, you do know about the world of words, and when you hear phrases such as “I want to be serious”, “tell me that we are going to be together and exclusively”, “I want everything with you and always” … it starts to spin. head. And from that territory of yours where you roam freely, with your freedom, your joy and giving yourself when you want, with whom you want and how you want, you see yourself in terrain with more shifting sand for you. Such as those that include being asked for explanations, that your house is always open to that person, or seeing their bad face when you have gone out a lot or have not answered the phone immediately. Remove remove.
Why are you afraid of commitment, Gemini? Because when you commit, you mean it. And you are afraid of wanting a commitment and that the other person does not want the same as you. Because that will drive a wedge in your relationship. Since you know yourself well, you know that what you don’t like makes you angry, and from there you start to squirm and you can mess it up. Therefore, you try to enjoy the relationship, going little by little, instead of running and then giving yourself the big blow. And it is difficult to contain yourself, it is difficult for you, especially if you like the person, you love them, and you see that the same thing happens to them. You think the best thing would be to commit yourself, but with your innate intuition, you think that it still doesn’t work out, and you keep your intentions to yourself. You want to do it right, and make room for the other person, and give him time.
Because your professional life may be at its best. And you, Leo, when you do something you want to do it well. And if you are in the middle of the whirlpool focusing your career, you will want to focus, because those first stages are fundamental for the future. Also, for you, a relationship is something as important as your career, more important you could say. And if you’re not going to give it the time, attention, and dedication it deserves, you’d rather wait. So it’s not that you’re afraid of commitment. You respect the commitment to a person, you want it as long as you have fallen in love. And when you assume it is to go to the end, not to stumble, to give excuses that make you feel terrible if you can’t stay, or to have fights that you are not looking for. Because then if you already get mad, you’re working and you don’t want jealousy antics or questions about where you are or if you’re going to work on the weekend too. Come on, they could get there with you. What happens to you for being so good, you think.
Because you don’t know if that person who asks you for a commitment is the right one. Your fussy sense of perfection slows you down from making such decisions, and you don’t want to make the wrong choice. As you do not like to fail anyone and reject them, seeing yourself in a commitment that you did not want means that you still have to settle for someone who is not “your special person.” Sure, it wouldn’t be for life, but you don’t like to make mistakes, or play on anyone’s feelings, or think about what you should have said no then. So you will say NO if you are not sure, and if you think better of it, then you will already look for a way to resume the commitment in your relationship. For you being alone is not a problem, so being with someone and that the relationship is not very very serious is not a problem either. You always act seriously So if someone thinks that because you don’t commit it is because you don’t want you to continue dating, they are wrong. For you, they are two different things. And the period.
Because for you a commitment is a big word, and you are afraid that the other person will force you to do something of which you are sure. You are afraid of going to more and that it will not work, you are afraid that the commitment will unite you with someone who could later leave and break your heart. Because in your mind you think that if everything ends, you will have to forget “someone” with whom it did not work. But if you are engaged, you will have to forget “a boyfriend” or “a girlfriend”. And that gives you more vertigo. For you, Libra, relationships should be easier, without having to name everything or decide now to touch this and then the other. You would like them to flow without more. You like to let them take you, but of course, the word commitment sounds strong, and more than once you have let yourself be carried away, and then you have had to regret having gotten into where you were not sure you should enter.
Because you, when you have a partner, it is because you are serious. You commit yourself without having to say it, without ostentatious statements with the intention of being serious … for you the commitment is always there if you are in a couple, it does not need lip service. Differences very well between frivolous or sensual comics, and a relationship in which you bet heavily on someone. From there, the commitment builds on its own. At least on your part, that you are very faithful and honest in your relationships. Also, you have seen before that when the commitment is established with words and celebrations, sometimes the problems begin. Because even then you want the wedding, the children, change houses or who knows. Do you think that many couples put on a show proclaiming that they have been engaged, giving it hype, and then all that evaporates, you do not know if because they have played to commit instead of doing it seriously? And you usually like your life, and if you like it, you want it to stay the same, not for the changes to come to you because the famous phrase comes: “We are committed.” Yuck.
Because when you commit it seems that the other person suddenly thinks that the ban has been opened. And suddenly you find yourself in a relationship that takes away your freedom because it seems that now everything is a matter of two. And if you go on your own, or want to travel, or go out with friends, you have to explain yourself. And that person with whom everything was great, love included, relaxes when they feel safe because they have “tied” you and everything focuses on giving a seriousness to the relationship that you almost have to make love on the day of the week that it touches. At least that is how you perceive it, within your character, that it is free and adventurous, and to which the ties put him on guard. Commitment is binding, commitment is that it seems that you have to open up a channel for the other person. And you don’t want that, come on, it’s that just thinking about it, you feel like dying a little. And since that is not easy, what if you start is to take little steps back. You are not afraid of commitment, you are afraid of it.
Because if sentimental issues make you feel insecure, when the serious commitment arrives (and even wedding dates and all that), you get very, very worried. You are very jealous of your life, your money, your things, and of course your heart. And of course, committing yourself is letting someone enter your heart with all the keys ringing in your hands. That you will, of course, you will, because you are from stable and committed relationships, but when you are clear that the person is the right one. And who wants in life the same as you. And that is not easy. So you get into relationships of all kinds that you try to manage as best you can because your thing is not the world of love backfire, but when the word commitment comes out you put yourself on guard. And you feel very vulnerable because those steps are important, and you know well about taking important steps. A step that you know involves time, dedication, maturity, seriousness, perseverance … almost nothing. So you Capricorn, yes to commitment, yes, but with the right person.
Because relationships in general already steal a part of you. With friends and family, you half control wearing them and you don’t let them get too much in your life. But as a couple, everything gets a little more complicated. With a roll you already feel somewhat imprisoned but because you are honest and you do not like to lie. With a partner, the feeling of less freedom is constant. And when it comes time to commit if the relationship is moving forward, of course, you feel fear. Because you know that you are going to lose a part of yourself, that part that becomes another part where you are already two, two people. And it is inevitable, it is implicit, whether you want it or not. It is a game that if you play there are some rules that you have to eat. You can play with others, worth the redundancy. But that a couple is going to steal your time, you swear it is true.
Because in your idealistic mind, there are so many stories that you want to live that commitment sounds like “focus now and forget about everything else”. Let’s see, you always want to be with a partner, but not tied down, because you like to flow with life, in relationships and enjoying many people and many moments. When you hear about commitment, a part of you looks ideal in that phase, with that person linked to you by a very important bond. But another part of you wanders through infinity and feels a certain fear that you are not the right person, that it will not turn out well, that life is long and you have to live it intensely, because … well, you wonder so much that it is difficult to go down to reality and focus on the other person, what they want and what you are willing to give, and at times, you fly back to your cloud, the one in which you manage your life in a different way. And idyllically, you double in a thousand people and a thousand couples. And you dream.