They say you have to date a few wrong people before meeting the right one; most of the time the love of your life comes after the mistake of your life.
Well, at least that’s what I believed (and learned) to be in love.
For the longest time I have devoted all of my time and attention to the wrong people. I’ve loved men who didn’t really care about me, weren’t sure they wanted to stay. I’ve been told that the love of your life comes after the mistake of your life, and frankly, it’s really true.
You spend so much time and effort making a relationship work only to find that the person you gave your heart to is not interested in being with you long term. You give it your all thinking you’ve found “the right guy” only to find that in their eyes you are just a passing person.
And this heartbreak – it hurts like hell.
The nice thing about love, however, is that once you’ve finally found the right person, it’s so easy.
When you’ve finally found the love of your life, you’ll see why it didn’t work out with the previous people. You begin to understand that the pain and heartbreak are worth it to finally find yourself in the arms of the right one.
And although it hurt and was a very messy trip, you treasure the times when you kissed the wrong lips, fell into the wrong arms, and turned in circles to please the wrong person. Because it took you to where you are now. Right here, right now.
Honestly, you can find the love of your life when you aren’t really looking for it.
Sometimes you find love in the moments after a breakup when you are still in the process of healing yourself. Sometimes it’s in the simple moments when you’re working on yourself and love is the last thing you think about.
You have distracted yourself with other commitments – you don’t need love badly and honestly, is that why you find it.
After being broken by wrongdoing, after being mistreated or abused, after losing ourselves, we realize that our worth does not depend on our relationship. So let’s focus on putting ourselves first. And then the right person comes on our way – not because we were looking for him or her, but because it is finally the right time.
Love comes to us when we finally stop worrying about timing, “ifs” and “when” and let them find us naturally, right where we are.
It is said that the love of your life comes after the mistake of your life and I can’t help but believe that this is true. After loving the wrong person, we are focused on ourselves. We are confident about what we want and how we choose the next person to let in. We are no longer angry, we try to become better people.
And that’s when the right person comes and softens our hearts. This is the moment when love finds its way into our souls and reminds us that we are worth it.
This is the moment when we let go of the past and understand that the wrong people do not define us or our ability to love again. And so we move forward, we trust and let us love and be loved by the right people – those with whom we should have always been with.