WHEN A MAN CALLS YOU BY YOUR FIRST NAME
What does it mean when a man calls you by your first name?
We name what we see and recognize.
In this way, we create the basis to get in touch with each other, to talk to each other and to discuss things.
This applies to everyday objects such as ‘curtain’ and ‘shoes’, to abstract concepts such as ‘fear’ and ‘love’ and to our first names.
There is this wonderful story in the Bible: God asked people to name everything he created.
That means they had to acquire things, they had to get to know things.
In short, they had to establish a relationship with everything around them.
This is nothing negative, but contains another wonderful dimension for human relationships.
I called you by your first name. You’re mine.
It’s anything but possessive, it just means “you belong to me and I belong to you.”
We belong to each other.
We see ourselves, we perceive ourselves.
I know who the other person is and I want to call them by their first name.
In fact, the first name is a gift.
All parents know the difficulty of finding the right first name for their child.
Should he be given the first name of the grandfather/grandmother?
Sounding and particularly well suited to the surname?
Or maybe the first name should carry all the good wishes and expectations for the child?
No matter what parents are guided by, they will find enough suggestions in countless name guides, encyclopedias and books on meaning.
Additionally, yearly hit lists show modern names for babies.
Finally, the first name is an important piece of identification.
It allows you to be recognized!
In addition, the first name makes it possible to create a stronger bond.
Imagine a conversation between three people who don’t know what each of them is called?
How do you know who you are talking to?
Who answers you?
On the other hand, when you know everyone’s first name, it is easier to create a friendly emotional bond.
Romantic context: when a man calls you by your first name
Many women think that when a man calls you by your first name, it sounds formal.
They feel embarrassed.
But there are no reasons for this.
Let’s not forget that using a person’s first name is a form of respect, especially in some cultures.
Indeed, for example in Asian culture, it is very rare to use a nickname for your girlfriend.
Moreover, even in France, many people are brought up with the idea that the first name, sometimes even the formal address, is a mark of affection and esteem.
For example, I was shocked when I went to my best friend’s house for the first time.
She addresses her parents and they address her as you too!
At first, I was taken aback and stunned.
I didn’t know how to behave.
My friend, who must have seen my face crumble, laughed.
She explained to me that in their family, affection passed through this form of respect and recognition of the other.
In the context of love, when a man calls you by your first name, it means that he likes you!
You may not be aware of it, but it is.
Indeed, you may be thinking that it is more appropriate for a man to use a nickname for his girlfriend.
Or even for a suitor, to use a cute nickname for his future girlfriend to appease her!
When a guy calls you by your first name, he’s showing the first sign of attraction.
Instantly, when a man calls you by your first name, you may be shocked or even offended.
You may prefer to be called “sweetie” or “sweetheart.”
But don’t jump to conclusions too quickly, thinking your partner or suitor doesn’t like you.
Or that he is fed up with you!
People tend to use a person’s first name if that person is of some interest to them.
Now, what you have to do is analyze the behavior of your partner or suitor.
Indeed, does he use the first name of all the people who are part of his entourage?
Imagine the following conversation…
You and your sweetheart/suitor are in the middle of a group of people.
He starts talking about an incident that happened at work.
My colleague deleted all data from the platform. This caused a chain reaction and the server went down. It took us seven hours to restore everything.
In this conversation, he does not use the first name of the colleague, because no one knows her around him and he is not interested in her.
So why would he use her first name?
Now imagine the following conversation…
You are both at this same party and you walk away from this man to get a glass of wine.
Out of the corner of your eye, you look at him and you hear him say:
(Your first name) cooked us a delicious dinner yesterday. I am so happy to have her in my life.
(Your first name) is a pearl.
He could have said “my girlfriend” or “her,” but when a guy calls you by your first name in such a context, it means he wants to emphasize his feelings for you.
Of course, you cannot rely solely on the use of your first name.
If you really want to know if a man really likes you, you should look for the following signs:
When a man calls you by your first name and shows these signs, it means he’s in love with you!
As I told you, when a man calls you by your first name when he talks about you or when he addresses you, it means that he feels a great interest in you.
But if you really want to know how he feels about you, you should also look for signs that prove his romantic feelings.
1. When a guy calls you by your first name, while making eye contact.
A man in love with you likes to make and maintain eye contact with you.
If he has ulterior motives or isn’t really interested in you, he won’t bother to look you in the eye for long.
2. A man in love has open body language.
By leaning towards you during conversations and not crossing his arms and legs protectively in front of his body, he shows you his openness.
3. When a man calls you by your first name, he waits for your answer and listens to you.
Does the conversation you have with him always revolve around him, or does he ask you questions, want your opinion, and seem interested in what you have to say?
A man who truly appreciates you not only includes you in the conversation, but also listens carefully and responds to what you say.
4. When a man calls you by your first name, he’s looking to make physical contact if he’s interested in you.
These touches are often very subtle.
For example, the person you’re talking to might gently put their hand on your arm to show understanding or touch your back when they first let you through a door.
These displays of affection are respectful and intimate.
Moreover, when a man calls you by your first name, he seeks to establish an intimate connection.
5. He cares about your interests.
A very good clue that a man can imagine a future with you is his interest in your passions.
Even though he himself has no connection to hobbies such as yoga, drawing, or jogging, he suddenly gets excited and asks you about your interests.
6. When a guy calls you by your first name, he also tends to call you for no reason.
If a guy really has a crush on you, then he doesn’t wait five days after the first date to contact you.
Instead, he calls you when he wants to hear your voice.
All he needs is to ask you how your day was.
7. He seeks your company.
When a man is in love with you, he not only calls you, but also tries to see you regularly.
And it’s not just about a hot Saturday night date.
A man who is really interested in you wants to spend time with you.
8. When a guy calls you by your first name, he’s showing you he wants to make time for you.
Time is precious, because outside of work and other commitments, we usually have far too little of it.
Despite this – or precisely because of this – a man in love takes time for you.
He will find time to spend quality time with you.
9. A man in love does not hesitate to mention you to all his relatives.
Do you date someone who showers you with attentions and gifts, but never introduces you to those around them?
So be careful, because when a man is really serious, he wants to include his partner in his life.
This means that he tells his friends about you.
10. He takes the time to get to know your friends.
A man who is in love with you also wants to meet the people who are close to you.
While a womanizer takes the opportunity and flirts with your girlfriends right away, a man in love shows genuine interest in your girlfriends’ stories, but only flirts with you.
When a man calls you by your first name VS when he says “honey”
Some women prefer cute nicknames or appellations such as “sweetheart”.
But what do these different phrases mean?
1. Nickname for his girlfriend
When we are in love, we become all honeyed.
We tend to show our emotions through adorable vulnerability.
We want to be touching!
When a guy uses a nickname for his girlfriend, it means he wants to create a unique emotional connection.
He wants to distinguish himself from other couples.
He also wants to prove to you that you have a unique place in his life.
But that doesn’t mean it’s better than when a man calls you by your first name.
Indeed, it is simply another feeling that is put forward.
The best nicknames for his girlfriend:
- My angel
- My baby
- My Juliet
- My little end
2. Calling yourself “honey”
Literally, calling your girlfriend “darling” means “the one for whom I have tender and loving feelings”.
It’s a standard appellation that doesn’t break a duck’s three legs.
But it remains a sweet and adorable appellation.
On the other hand, there are not really undertones behind this word.
When a man calls you by your first name, he differentiates between you and all the other women in his past or present life.
On the other hand, “darling” can be used for a friend, an ex and any woman.
3. Being called “my heart”
Calling his girlfriend “sweetheart” is a sign that a man needs to create a stronger emotional bond.
In fact, it’s a way for him to say that his sweetheart is just as important as the air he breathes or the water he drinks.
In short, to call his girlfriend “my heart” is to tell him that he cannot live without her.
He has a vital need to be one with her!
When a man calls you by your first name, he is trying to charm you.
But he is also sure of his relationship with you.
On the other hand, “my heart” can show a certain fear of losing the other.