What Men Want In A Relationship: 5 Things They’ll Never Tell You!
If you are single, you may want to find love and you have an ideal man in mind.
Of course, this is subjective and personal to everyone but there are probably certain traits you want him to have that most girls would agree with.
You want someone who is sweet, funny, smart, interested in a committed relationship, close to family (but also not weirdly too close), has fun hobbies, and has a great work ethic.
But have you ever thought about what a man wants, needs in a relationship?
It can be interesting to think about love and dating from a male perspective.
We’ve rounded up some things men look for when they find someone they want to commit to and settle down with.
But they might not tell you because, hey, they’re still good guys!
1. Someone who does little things for him
If you’re currently in a relationship, you probably really appreciate your guy doing the little things for you.
It can be buying your favorite food, just flowers or even cleaning the apartment as a surprise; in short, everything and nothing.
None of these things are crazy romantic, absolutely not on the same level as red roses and candlelit dinners…and that’s what’s cool about it. This is what makes them so valuable and means so much.
The same goes for our companions!
They really need to be with someone who does little things for them.
Besides, they might not even know that this is the kind of person they should be looking for but once they have a caring girlfriend like this, they will totally understand.
Being attentive and kind are two of the best qualities to look for in a partner!
2. Someone who truly accepts who they are and doesn’t try to change it
Guys hate girls above all else who want them to be different people once they go out together.
Either way, you have to realize that even if you want to, you can’t really change anyone but yourself.
He is who he is just as you are who you are.
The sooner you accept this, the sooner and happier you both will be in your relationship.
Men want to be with someone who understands them and loves them exactly as they are.
And that’s what you also expect from a man towards you, isn’t it?
3. Someone he can confide in
Most men don’t like to talk about their feelings, and when they do, they usually have few people to turn to without fear of ridicule.
Their loved ones should be people they can open up to, but it’s not always that easy. Something a man will really want in a relationship is for you to be his “safe space.”
The sign of a strong relationship is when a man realizes he can open up to you emotionally. Don’t worry if this doesn’t happen right away. It can sometimes even take years for this kind of emotional intimacy to develop.
When a guy really wants to be in a relationship, he won’t just want physical intimacy: he’ll also want to be close to you emotionally.
He needs to know that you won’t be disgusted if he has a breakdown or cries in front of you.
But if you make him feel like he can’t be vulnerable around you, then his confidence will go away.
A man wants a woman who can see the flaws in his wall and not judge him for it.
Emotional intimacy also applies to how you and your spouse feel for each other. Don’t be afraid to tell him that you care about him, especially as the relationship progresses.
4. Someone who respects him
It can be easy and sometimes even fun to bicker and tease the opposite gender, but we need to be aware when our other half is involved.
You can crack a joke or two, but still think about your guy’s feelings.
We have all heard of the gender stereotypes that exist.
But do yourself a favor and don’t belittle your boyfriend. You probably wouldn’t like to be put down either, would you?
Sometimes this can happen accidentally but be careful not to be too critical of him. It’s no good if you don’t make him feel good about himself. And if you criticize him all the time, why the hell stay with him if you’re not compatible?
Respect and love go hand in hand, whether for us women or for them.
If you don’t respect him then, are you sure you really love him? Not respecting him will make him feel unloved, anxious and frustrated, among other things.
Another part of respect is seeing him as your equal.
This means not treating him like a child. Even if yes, I know, it is sometimes difficult as certain attitudes seem childish.
But try as much as possible not to treat him like a little boy and compare him to other guys, who are stronger, smarter, better looking, richer, etc.
Also be aware of how you relate to the opposite gender.
Of course, you have every right to have other friends of the opposite gender! But it’s generally considered disrespectful to flirt with other people, whether your man is there to see it or not.
The rule of thumb is to consider how you would like to be treated and apply that to how you treat the man in your life.
And vice versa ! Having deep mutual respect for each other is really the basis for living a healthy relationship.
5. Someone who cheers him on and lifts him up
We all have a bit of ego and men are no different in this regard, quite the contrary.
Even the most confident-looking man in the world could use some reassurance from time to time. Whether it’s about themselves, their careers, their “performances” in bed, or how they are as partners, men love to be praised and admired.
Do not hesitate to congratulate your companion when he does a good job, whether at work or at home. Encourage its positive sides. Whether he’s really fit or good at conversation, let him know he’s special.
If he’s the main family pillar in your relationship, tell him you appreciate his hard work and what he does for your home. And if he’s not, thank him for the other contributions he’s made to the life you share together as a couple.
All your encouragement will make him a better person.
They also appreciate being inspired. Even if, of course, they will NEVER admit it!
If you ever hear him say to someone one day that “Yes, it’s true, she makes me a better man”, don’t let him go!
The happiest couples are those who inspire and motivate each other.
If you’ve met the person you were meant to be with, you know that person has changed you and changed your life.
You feel like the best version of you and it’s hard to imagine being your old self.
Scoop : this is also what men want to feel.
Be kind but don’t let yourself be walked on
What do men want in a relationship? The same things as us, more or less.
Men are happy when a relationship goes smoothly.
They’re really not into drama or having big emotional talks every five minutes about where things are going and where you are.
They just want it to flow and things flow naturally.
And above all, men want a woman who is happy. Happy in life and happy in the relationship!
That doesn’t mean you have to be a robot with a perpetually plastered smile on your face.
Of course, he will understand if you have bad days or are sometimes in a bad mood. It’s a question of proportion.
Are the bad days once in a while or all the time? Does the bad mood invade all hours of the day or is it occasional?
When deciding to commit to a woman, men think about how it feels to be with them.
They live in the present moment more than we who are often already in the future, predicting this or that.
Men will ask themselves simple but relevant questions: Most of the time, do you have fun and is it easy, relaxed or is it moody and complicated?
If it’s the second option, they probably won’t stick around for very long, unless they’re into all sorts of drama themselves.
You hold all the cards
But the good news is that you have almost total control over your mood and your happiness. You can keep the negativity away and choose to be happy.
Happiness is a choice, not something that comes to your door one day as a consolation prize for so many years of suffering.
You must pursue happiness and continue to actively maintain it.
When you do that, you become that rare, one-of-a-kind woman that men can’t resist.
It’s what makes people want to be around you and be more like you.
And that’s what will change your life, for the better!