When it comes to leaving a violent relationship, everyone talks about it as if it was the easiest thing to do.
They can all talk, but YOU did the right thing and I’m proud of you!
I want you to know that it does not matter that it took you so long to find the courage to leave.
It does not matter if you went back there several times after he attracted you with his lies that broke you.
You are the only one who knows how painful and humiliating it was to hear you say that you are ugly and unworthy.
To tell you that you could not leave because you could not survive without him.
To tell you that no one would want you for fear that someone will treat you better.
Make fun of you because you think you can live without him, when in fact it was he who was afraid of losing you, and he who needed you.
Being in a violent relationship basically changes you in a way that is difficult even to describe.
It is very painful and you become a different person, without even realizing what is happening.
These odious relationships and these ignoble partners are gradually destroying you from within.
You feel slowly exhausted … until one day there is nothing left. You are exhausted and numb.
You become insensitive to the world, insensitive to emotions and you stop worrying about yourself and what happens to you.
What you’re going through is so painful that you do not really care what’s going to happen and how it’s going to end.
You just need it to stop.
There is a limit to the pain that a person is able to bear and no matter what you did and how you did to deal with the abusive nature of your partner, everything is acceptable.
Whatever tough choices you have had to make, you can be proud of yourself today, and these choices are by no means a reflection of you as a person.
They are simply the result of continued abuse by a vicious man who was not allowed to do what he did to you.
If you have been there, know that there is nothing wrong with that. You escaped.
You stayed in one piece and for now, that’s all that matters.
No matter what you had to resort to get out of it, it does not matter.
It has helped you out and it’s something that few people can say, so be proud of yourself.
It takes time to learn to forget what he made you live and what he did to you.
It takes time to rebuild and start from scratch.
It is normal to feel lost right now. It is normal to feel weak and even bored of this person at times.
Even if it was the worst love … feelings still need time to disappear.
It will take time before you become yourself again.
Before you can look in the mirror and recognize the woman you are.
For so long, you have relied on the most destructive type of love, that at this moment you do not know how to live without him.
Do not feel that there is something wrong with you to feel like that.
There is no good way to deal with abuse. Let yourself go at the pace that suits you.
Do not feel bad about thinking that he would change.
I know that’s probably why you stayed so long, but I know it does not matter.
You trust people, even when they do not deserve it, and it’s not something to be ashamed of.
You are so strong.
First of all, for having endured all this, then for surviving the violence, and you alone know exactly how brutal it was, and in the end, for you to be far away.
The strength you needed to get out of it shows how tough and resilient you are.
You stayed so long because you believed it.
You wanted to believe that things would be better. You wanted to believe that he would get the help he needed.
You desperately wanted to believe that he would never resort to violence again … but when you realized that your hopes were in vain, you did the most difficult thing: you left.
And wherever you are in your healing, know that I am proud of you. You did the right thing.
You have been brave. And for that, you deserve all the praise and all the comfort of the world.
There will be days so dark that you will not have the strength to get up.
There will be days when you will question yourself and doubt your choices.
There will be obstacles on your journey to healing and during these times, remember what you did.
Remember how strong and courageous you must have been and be proud of yourself!
The pain you are feeling right now is proof that you are about to take control of your life.
And with every step you take, you get rid of the pain he has left you and regain control of your life.