The separation from a narcissist is extremely difficult. This hypocritical bastard destroys your self-esteem and self-esteem. When you’re done with it, you no longer have the strength to keep going. Trusting people is the last thing you can do.
Only after you have survived the long and painful healing process, and after realizing that it was not your fault, that it did not work out, and that it made you believe in things that are not true, you can turn your life off look at another perspective.
Narcissistic relationships are addictive. You get used to your abuse and it becomes your life. It becomes like a shot you have to take every day, otherwise, you are in a crisis. His insults and manipulations become the air that you breathe and you do not want to crush. That’s why you stay there.
Narcissistic relationships are a challenge. Some women stay in this relationship even though they are unhappy because they keep hoping that things will change. They cling to the idea that they will change him and make him a better person. And indeed, narcissists are such good actors that they know exactly the right moment to pretend to have changed – the moment the woman has had enough, and they manipulate her again to stay.
Narcissistic relationships are humiliating. These people take away everything positive about yourself. They take your will for life. They push you and corner you, with no chance of getting out. You just turn around in a circle hoping to find your way out, but that never happens.
The narcissist turns you into a shadow of the woman you once were.
He takes away everything you have and creates a woman of his taste that he can control and eventually destroy.
But a person can only endure so much abuse. All women eventually put an end to this behaviour. Narcissists get you to the point where they are not interested in what’s going to happen to them. They are not afraid anymore and their consciousness starts. The tiny bit of force inside them screams its way out and they finally drop the sneaky bastard.
But the fight is not over yet. This is just the beginning of the journey. That was just the first step they dared to do.
Now comes the hard part. All women who had the strength to free themselves from a narcissistic relationship face the task of rediscovering their love for themselves. They face the challenge of finding their self-esteem and forgiving themselves when they believe in all the narcissistic lies and manipulation.
Women have to deal with healing and fight their attempts to get them back. You see, narcissists can not live without their victims. You have to have someone to hang on to. You have to have someone who will be their punch bag, someone who gives them a better feeling, and someone who gives them the whip. And they will try everything to get you back.
Separation from a narcissist
That’s what you can expect when you finally break with a narcissist:
1. The narcissist will persecute and harass you.
Any normal person will understand – if not immediately, then after some time – that one must leave a relationship that brings more suffering than happiness. But unlike normal humans, a narcissist will see you defeat him while you leave him, and he can not be beaten. He sees your relationship as a kind of competition in which you have won.
Since he can not accept the fact that you left him first, he will persecute and harass you for months and maybe even years after the breakup. He’ll track you on social networks, come to your house, send you texts, call you, or even use someone else to try to manipulate you so you can come back to him. He’s ready to do anything – from hacking into your computer to confusing your head and the threat.
2. The narcissist will blame you for everything.
In the beginning, he pretended that he was lucky to have you and that you are a great blessing. He behaves as if he’s lucky enough to meet someone as good as you. But as the relationship unfolds and he begins to show his true face, things deteriorate. That’s why he’ll blame you. He’ll make a stupid excuse to blame you for this broken relationship. The reason is completely irrelevant – what’s important is that it’s all your fault.
This is so shocking and hurtful, and narcissists only do it because they see that there is no possibility that you two will ever come together again; so they keep their names clean and fool themselves into believing that they did not do anything wrong.
3. Triangular relationships after separation
He will try to purposely create a love triangle to weaken you and put your mind back in time when you were with him. In such situations, you have to be careful with social networks, avoid them, and try not to go to the places where you could meet them.
This is important because you are still in the healing process and any sight of it or even a failed attempt to make you jealous can rekindle your doubt and lack of respect. You have to make sure that you have no contact with your narcissist at all, so you deny him the chance to suck yourself back into the hell in which you lived.
4. The narcissist will persuade you to feel guilty and make you stay.
After you finally get rid of a narcissist, he will try to convince you of guilt so that you can return to him. He will remind you of all the wonderful things he has done for you while you were together, and there were many of them, but unfortunately, each of these acts had an ulterior motive.
Every time he did something nice for you, he wanted something in return. He’ll put those things in your face, hoping you’ll just remember the good things and give him another chance.
5. The narcissist will make you look bad.
You can not dodge this ball. You can not hide the fact that you have parted because the narcissist wants to make sure everyone knows you have split up, and now it is time for these people to choose one side.
Your narcissist wants your friends to let you down completely. He’ll make you sick on social networks and blaspheme you whenever he gets the chance. He’ll try to convince people that you did all the things he did to you. He wants to gain as much sympathy as possible and make you a bad guy.