These 7 things a man who wants to spend his life with you would never do
When a man is in love and in a relationship with a woman, it is normal for him to think about a future together with her. Maybe he hopes for a marriage or children from her. Maybe he wants to live with her or go on a trip together. It is perfectly legitimate for a man who has fallen in love with a woman to think about what his future might look like with her.
Of course, he also wants to know how his partner thinks about the future. Of course, he wants her to spend her time with him too. When we are in love, we usually wish that the person we are in love with is also in love with us. But sometimes the reality is very different.
Are you also afraid that someone you love at the moment thinks that your relationship has no future? Then you should pay attention to the signs.
These are the main signs that he is not planning to spend his life with you.
1. HE DOESN’T WANT YOU TO MEET HIS FAMILY.
You have been seeing each other for a long time, but still he does nothing to get to know his family. His parents may even live in the same city, but he still hasn’t introduced them to you.
For you, this would be the next natural step in a relationship, but somehow nothing comes from it. It just doesn’t seem to be on his list of priorities. Or worse – he gets aggressive on the subject or tries to avoid it.
If a man plans something with you in the long term, he will eventually want to introduce you to his family. But he doesn’t want to go through this inconvenience with you because he doesn’t plan to stay with you. He just has no serious intentions with you.
2. HE DOESN’T SAY THAT YOU ARE HIS GIRLFRIEND.
When he says he doesn’t want to call the whole thing “relationship” or you call him his “girlfriend” because he says he isn’t a fan of it, it actually means that he is not in love. He actually has no problem with these names, but simply with you – as hard as it may sound. However, it is better if you realize it now than to get yourself further into this.
If he really wanted you by his side, he wouldn’t hesitate long and call you his girlfriend. He will proudly announce it to his friends and also tell all the new acquaintances he meets. Why should he not tell you that?
And that’s exactly what you deserve! You shouldn’t put up with that when he talks about the bush.
3. HE NEVER MAKES PLANS WITH YOU.
Your partner will never treat you like a future unless he sees one with you. He doesn’t plan your appointments and you will always have the feeling that you are the one who has to plan everything so that you two can finally see each other or do something together. He would never like to make precise plans with you or make appointments because he just doesn’t see you as the woman he wants to spend his life with.
Sometimes a man can do all of this unconsciously. For this reason, you can’t necessarily say that a man who behaves like this is an absolute asshole. But you shouldn’t put up with it anyway.
4. HE ONLY COMES TO VISIT YOU TO HAVE S*X WITH YOU.
He may find you hot and love s*x with you. But he doesn’t love you. That’s why he only meets with you when he can have s*x with you. He never just wants to spend time with you, he’s just looking for that one satisfaction.
He wouldn’t go out to dinner with you or invite you on a date, he just wanted to go to your home. He’d rather have a pizza delivered than show up with you somewhere.
A man who can imagine a future with you would love to have every spare second in his life with him. It doesn’t matter whether there is s*x or not.
5. HE DOESN’T WANT TO MEET YOUR FRIENDS.
If he doesn’t see a future with you, he won’t care to meet the people you care about. He would like to avoid it.
But guys like that aren’t monsters. They actually know that they hurt you with their behavior and also feel bad about it. This is precisely why they don’t want to meet the people who are important to you. You cannot deal with these feelings of guilt.
6. HE HARDLY TALKS TO YOU.
He doesn’t really communicate with you. He only replies to text messages when he likes them and that shouldn’t be the case. A man in love would literally wait for your messages and write you back as soon as possible.
But this guy is different. He reads the message and may write back after 3 hours. Or maybe he doesn’t answer at all. You just are not at the top of his priority list. And you shouldn’t just accept that.
7. HE RARELY TALKS ABOUT THE FUTURE.
You two have been together long enough to finally have a clarifying conversation about your future. But he doesn’t really want to talk about it, much less plan something with you.
You probably don’t ask him because you know how the conversation will go. Because you will find that there is no future with you in his world. But you shouldn’t be afraid to make him uncomfortable. Just ask him! He owes you an answer!
This is a natural thing in every respect. You shouldn’t play along with his game and just accept everything as it is. Show him what your values are in a relationship.