I know that sometimes you think you should reach out to him again.
So much time has passed and you can tell how long ago it was that you were in each other’s lives.
Maybe it’s nostalgia, maybe it’s loneliness, maybe you just sincerely miss him. So you stretch out your hand.
You ask how he was doing. He tells you that he is very well, that everything is going well. You tell him that everything has remained the same for you.
Then he says it. “I miss you.”
And regardless of how much you wish not to do it, you can feel how that feeling arises in you.
You feel your heart racing and you can’t help but smile, not even a little smile. It’s nice to know that he misses you too.
That you are not the only one who brings the memories back to life from time to time. That you are not the only one thinking about wanting to do more with it.
You say you want to see him and he agrees with you. But the next day comes and goes. A week or two pass and he’s gone just like that.
If you stretch out your hand and ask him about it, he has his excuses ready. That he’s busy.
That he had a lot of work. That he was nervous. That he really wants to see you, it’s just not a good time now.
Let me tell you the truth; he doesn’t really miss you. Because if he did, he would actually do something about it.
We all want to be missed. We like the idea that someone who was so important to us and has influenced us so much thinks of us and wants to shake hands with us.
We hope all the more if it’s someone we miss – we don’t want to be the only ones.
So, to protect ourselves from rejection, let us convince you of the lies they tell us – because it is easier to endure the thought that he is busy and not that he is not thinking of you.
It’s easier to believe that he desperately wants to find a way to see you, rather than the idea that he doesn’t care to pull it off.
You talk yourself into thinking that if you try a little more if you keep your hand out, he may not get you out of your head at some point.
That they will finally see what they are missing.
But it is time that you finally admit what you have avoided so far.
It’s time you admitted that he doesn’t miss you no matter how much you want it.
It is also time to admit to yourself that it doesn’t matter. That the fact that he doesn’t miss you doesn’t mean that you’re not someone worth missing.
Frankly, there will be people who influence us in our lives in such an overwhelming way that it is hard to imagine not being so present in their lives.
But some people are simply not aware of what they have. Some people just don’t see the opportunity right in front of them – and it’s not your fault. This is not something that you should be sorry for.
It means he had a chance and missed it – and it looks like it is a good thing he did because you are worth more than that.
You are someone whose value is not diminished just because a guy doesn’t come up from his butt and doesn’t really bother.
Someone who is unwilling to make an effort to see you is not someone you should be obsessed with. You know you deserve more than that.
Because you have so much to offer this world and you deserve someone who recognizes it.
You deserve someone who, when given the chance to relive or relive these memories with you, looks forward to doing just that.
You deserve someone who looks at you and knows what wonderful things you have in front of you.
So stop wasting your time, thoughts and energy on someone who claims to miss you just to let you down.
Because if he really missed you, he would do something about it.
And frankly, you’re better off without him.