Open letter to all those who have left my life: thank you!
Thanks to you and your departure, I learned a lot about myself!
In our lifetime, we meet many people.
Some are made to stay, others to teach us essential lessons.
Sometimes it can be difficult to understand why these people disappear overnight without providing an honest and clear explanation, but one thing is certain: everything happens for a good reason.
I know I’m not necessarily easy going and I tend to keep people at a distance.
But even I have never pushed others to the point of actually leaving them.
Besides, my behavior was neither intentional nor premeditated.
But, today, I realize that I have to be grateful for my bad habits. Indeed, these have helped me to sort out.
Thanks to my sometimes difficult character, I was able to discover who was with me for the right reasons and to stay and who only used me for the time to find something better.
This last category of people was only there for the good times and when the bad happened, they all took to their heels!
So, today, I decided to thank them!
Indeed, after a breakup or simply the end of a friendly relationship, you would think that I would have wanted to write about the pain I felt.
Abandonment, confusion and incomprehension were indeed present. And, even now I find it difficult to completely heal these wounds.
You would also have thought that I would have liked to thank the people who stayed, those who accepted my personality as it was and who decided that I was worth knowing and recognizing.
But, no… Today, I am going to write to all those who have left!
It may be surprising to some but, in reality, with each departure, I felt stronger and more myself.
Thanks to these people, I learned who I really was, what I wanted and what I absolutely did not want to have in my life.
Thank you for not being consistent and sincere!
Thanks for opening my eyes
I won’t lie to you! When you left, it hurt me a lot. I was lost and uncomfortable.
What could I have done to scare you all away?
Then all of a sudden the pain started to subside and I felt a deep relief.
I then decided to take my life in hand and rebuild myself again.
But when I saw you again, the old wound opened again.
I then cursed you while retracing in my head all the good and bad memories we shared together.
But, I’ll tell you something: once the pain subsided again and I got tired of cursing you, I felt much better.
So thank you very much! Thank you very much for leaving!
For a while I was in a dark tunnel that seemed to have no end, but eventually I found the light and my way out.
Thanks to you, I understood what I couldn’t accept in my life if I wanted to be happy.
And, thanks to you, I realized what kind of people I absolutely had to cherish and protect.
Without you (and your departure), I would never have been in osmosis with my desires and my desires.
Thank you for showing me that not everyone is trustworthy and not all people are capable of keeping their promises.
I went against my instincts by allowing you into my life and that is as much a mistake as it is an important lesson.
If I hadn’t done that, I never would have known that I could trust my intuition and that I was still right to keep my distance.
Thank you for proving to me that the good days were far more important than the bad. A difficult period always hides many sunny days.
Thanks to you, I opened my eyes to all that the world has to offer and realized that when one door closes, dozens of others open.
And, without you, I wouldn’t be as strong as I am today.
You showed me that I could face anything alone and that I was able to rise from my ashes.
Finally, I had a revelation: instead of crying after the people who left, I have to realize that they weren’t made to stay at all!
And, it is this evidence that allowed me to get closer to my true friends, those who really care about me.
Thanks to them, I had the strength to move forward and continue to live.
They showed me that true friends stick by your side no matter what.
Even when life becomes a challenge, even when we lose sight of who we are, they stay with their feet firmly planted in the ground to reach out and get us out of trouble.
When you chose not to care about me anymore, it made me open my eyes to the people who really cared about me.
And, thanks to you, I learned to appreciate them a lot more and especially to be grateful for everything they do for me.
After all, they have never disappointed me, abandoned me or made me cry. So thank you for bringing me closer to them.
Besides, when you decided you didn’t love me anymore, you forced me to question myself.
Now I know who I am and I love the person I’ve become.
Love and self-esteem are very important for a woman.
So thank you for making me realize that I need to focus more on myself if I want to be truly happy.
When I thought I needed you the most, you disappeared from my life.
So, even if this thank you may seem a little sarcastic, it is not: thank you for proving to me that I don’t need you.
Indeed, I especially needed me, my family and my true friends.
I had no place in my life for superficial people who only wanted to take advantage of the kindness of others.
If you thought blocking me on all social media would upset me, you were wrong. You made it easy for me, actually.
It saved me from doing it myself. I didn’t really mean to look at pictures of you with your new partner or your new friends.
So thank you for going ahead and pulling the rug out from under me.
I move on
Life goes on and it’s not just a way of speaking. She really does. The sun rises and sets, every day. The earth continues to turn.
The people who really care about me are there, day after day, to help me, support me and encourage me.
So thank you for leaving, but don’t think my forgiveness is a sign of weakness.
These thanks are intended to relieve my heart and to make you understand that I absolutely do not blame you.
But that doesn’t mean I want to give you another chance.
You chose to leave me by the wayside so don’t try to come back. I’ve moved on and I sincerely hope you are too.
I wish you all the happiness in the world. But, if you want to come back, I’ll say “No, thank you!” »
I will always have good memories of you and I will try hard to forget the bad ones.
But, one thing is certain: I will never forget the pain I felt after you left.
This will serve me, in the future, as a reminder.
Thanks to this, I will always keep in mind that I have to be more vigilant when I let people into my universe.
From now on, I will choose my partners and my friends more rationally. I really don’t want to relive that pain.
Even if it was an essential pillar in my personal development and even if it allowed me to be closer to my real friends and my personal desires, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
I deserve much more than half-hearted friendship or love. I am worthy of a romantic story like in fairy tales.
I deserve friends who fight for me.
And, thanks to you, I discovered that I already had a lot of things in my life that I should be grateful for.
I hope that you, too, have learned essential lessons from the experience we have shared.
I sincerely hope you have learned to treat people better and accept who they really are.
Thank you for being part of my life, but thank you also for leaving it. Without you, my current life would not be so stable and fulfilled!