Moving for the job: pre-programmed end of a relationship?
Moving for a career – Moving for the job is never an easy decision – especially if you are in a relationship. Love can suffer from a greater distance if your partner cannot accompany you immediately or at all. But that doesn’t automatically mean the end of your relationship.
Whether moving for the job and continuing a relationship are mutually exclusive always depends on the individual situation. Your partner and their views play a role in the decision, but you too need to ask yourself what is right and important for you.
Relationship or job – which is more important?
Before you decide to move, you should evaluate what is important to you: Should your career and personal advancement come first? Or are completely different things important to you, such as a stable relationship in which you see your partner regularly and live together? Does your partner agree to the distance? Perhaps you have been in a relationship for a long time and even want to start a family? These are all questions that you need to consider. If you come to the conclusion that your relationship and the familiar environment, including all other social contacts, are more important than the professional perspective, it may make more sense to look around for new job opportunities in the vicinity.
Long-distance relationship not an option: what now?
Moving for the job can stand and fall with your partner’s intentions, but how much weight you give the opinion of your significant other also depends on your personality. If a long-distance relationship is not an option for your partner, you should perhaps also question the status of your relationship – it may not make sense for your significant other to back off in the long term anyway. If, on the other hand, you and your partner are a well-rehearsed team and love is strong, there is usually at least nothing against trying a long-distance relationship. After all, there are social networks, hangouts, Skype, email, telephone, letters and other forms of communication to keep in touch until the next face-to-face meeting.