Here are 8 tips to follow when meeting your sweetie’s parents
You have met a great man.
You both fell in love and you are already talking about your common future.
Then comes the fateful moment of the meeting with the parents.
Indeed, if you intend to take the next step with your darling, you cannot miss this meeting.
If you leave a bad first impression, your partner’s parents may antagonize your relationship.
If you say something wrong, your relationship with them could get complicated.
After all, family is important to everyone.
And when things get a little more serious, you can’t really escape this encounter.
But you want to know the truth?
Your boyfriend’s parents love you instantly, they pester their son and keep telling him he’s found the gem.
That’s why we have some tips for you.
Indeed, it is important that you learn to communicate and to love the parents of your darling so that your meeting is a success.
1. When is the ideal time for the meeting?
Well, of course, it can happen that after only two weeks, your boyfriend wants to introduce you to his whole family as the future bride.
It’s incredibly flattering, but our life experience tells us: don’t rush things!
First of all, check if you are really compatible enough and if you are not just acting in the heat of passion.
It can be quite uncomfortable to meet the parents too soon and not yet know much about your boyfriend.
But you shouldn’t wait too long to get to know each other.
A good deadline: after about six months, you could arrange a meeting.
2. Get ready!
First, remember that your partner is just as excited as you are, that they also want their parents to like you.
And of course, you want him to like you right away.
So be proactive and ask your boyfriend what his parents like, what interests them, what they dislike.
You get extra points for your interest and attention – and you also know which topics get sympathy and which you can rather ignore.
3. Don’t forget the gift!
Parents are no different from anyone else: they like good manners and politeness.
If you are invited to dine at their home, a bottle of wine or a bouquet of flowers brings in multiple bonus points.
You can also offer to help clean the dishes or serve the food.
The parents are enthusiastic about the offer, even if they refuse your help.
4. Avoid questions on sensitive topics.
Your darling’s parents are devout, but you were raised an atheist?
Well, religion will not be the subject of the evening (we hope).
You can discuss controversial topics as you get to know each other better.
On the first night you get to know each other, you should find out what you have in common – not convert and lecture each other.
Stick to the weather or funny stories from your boyfriend’s childhood.
This is safe ground for sympathy points.
5. Be yourself!
Don’t betray your values or present yourself as someone you’re not.
You don’t have to lie and say you attend mass every other Sunday just to get your boyfriend’s parents on your side.
It is better to avoid certain subjects.
Be yourself, relax, and trust that they will love you like their son loves you.
In the end, parents only want their child to be happy.
And if you contribute to it, everything will be won in advance.
6. Watch your appearance.
Exaggerated makeup, high heels with a 10 cm heel or too short skirts are definitely not suitable for getting to know parents.
Of course, it’s important that you feel good about yourself, but clothes should always be appropriate for the occasion.
Jeans and a simple blouse or an elegant sweater are ideal for a first meeting.
For example, you can arrange a white blouse in several ways.
7. Don’t compete with his parents!
Want to prove to his parents how well you already know him?
Be careful not to compete with the parents in this area, because you are guaranteed to lose this battle.
Don’t hesitate to admit when you learn something new about him, because after all, you can’t know everything about him yet.
8. Be vigilant!
Being attentive is not only important when first meeting you, but generally puts you in a good light.
Actively participate in the conversation, but don’t interrupt his parents.
Help clear the table or offer to help his mother in the kitchen.
This is usually not desired, but it provides a good opportunity for a deeper conversation between women.