I read somewhere that the difference between men and women when it comes to missing someone is that women feel all the feelings immediately. Men, on the other hand, take a little longer to understand that they are missing “something” in life.
So I wondered if that’s true, why do people lose and miss each other at all?
Over time, a relationship breaks down anyway. Two hearts are injured. Two people go apart. Ego and pride overlay real feelings, resulting in a silence that lasts from days to weeks to months.
And then you realize that the person you knew almost nobody else has become a stranger.
We break each other’s hearts by hiding our feelings. Then the moments of vulnerability. The moments when we want to say something. But we don’t. The moments when we want to do it right. Only nobody takes this step.
We are waiting for the other person to take the first step.
This way, you become a stranger to the person you love and care about.
So if you’re wondering why you haven’t heard from her, or if you’re wondering if she misses you, or if you’re wondering where she is or who she’s with or who she’s sleeping with at night … do something on the other hand.
The answer is YES. How could she not miss someone like you?
In fact, she’s trying to keep herself busy so she doesn’t have to think about you. She does everything to release herself from her pain. She misses you even if she doesn’t say it.
So if you miss her too …
Please say something. Do something. Don’t lose someone who cares about you because they still do. And that will probably always be the case.
Because she really misses you. But she’s just trying to be strong. She actually has a list of things she would like to say, but she lets the silence about what is in her heart overcome her.
She followed her heart and it led her alone to the dead end. Now she follows her head, but that is completely unnatural for someone like her. She’s fighting herself, and she thinks if you missed her, you’d tell her.
In fact, the silence annoys her, and although her life seems calm, it is the silence that haunts her.
She hasn’t reached anyone for days, and when her phone rings, she just wants her to see your name. But they’re just close friends wondering how she’s doing.
She tries to be strong. But everything to do with your absence brings her to her knees as she rolls back and forth at night.
She thinks time, space and distance are the best, but how can something that hurts so much be the best?
She doesn’t want to invest time, feelings and energy in someone who doesn’t miss her. That’s why she tries to show a brave face. But it takes a lot of effort to be that strong.
It kills them not to hear from you. It kills her for missing you the way she does. She believes that she means nothing to you. She thinks you don’t give a shit about it.
Why miss someone who doesn’t miss you?
I know you miss her too. I know you’re wondering what she’s doing right now. Because when you establish an emotional connection with someone, leaving not only affects one side but everyone involved.
Not only did you influence her life, but she also influenced yours.
I know you miss telling her stories. I know that you miss the hours of conversation that made the days pass faster. You miss their wisdom. Your advice. Your clues. You miss experiencing something and sharing it with her.
Everything you see now remembers her. I know you miss the time you’ve spent together as these memories repeat in your head. It’s the little things that creep into your mind.
And you type a message just to delete it, even though part of you wants to hit send. But you are waiting for her to take this step.
Each of you is waiting for someone to take this step.
This thing means something to each of you.
But none of you does anything about it.
You didn’t just come into each other’s life like that to become another sad story that you both regret later. You are so much more than that. You are so much better than that.
And I know that you are still interested in each other. I know you miss her too.
And if you ask how I know, it’s because she feels these things too, she says nothing, because she refuses to admit that you were one of the best things that ever happened to her …