After the divorce after eleven years of marriage, actor Brad Pitt decided to give relationship tips for the marriage. “Of course I’m not a relationship expert. But I would have done it differently today. “
Never stop conquering them.
When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be the man who had her heart and would always protect it. Never stop reading them and conquer them every day.
Protect your own heart.
Just as you have committed yourself to be the protector of your heart, you must also protect your own heart with the same vigilance. Love yourself to the fullest. Always keep the space in your heart open to receive love.
Fall in love again and again.
You will change constantly. You are not the same person you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. The change is coming, and you have to fall in love every day. Always fight to win her heart the way you did when you first met her.
Always try to see the best in her.
Focus only on what you love. When you focus on what mistakes you see, things get worse and worse. Concentrate on the point where you can not see anything but love, and you no doubt know that you are the luckiest man on earth to have this woman by your side.
Take full responsibility …
… For your own feelings: It is not your wife’s job to make you happy and she can not make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and as a result, your joy in your relationship will increase.
Never blame your wife if you …
… you are frustrated or angry. You are responsible for your emotions, not you. When you feel that these feelings need time, take this time.
You were interested to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all the wounds of your childhood in the most painful way so you could heal her. If you heal yourself, those feelings will not be triggered by her anymore.
Allow your wife to be who she is.
When she is sad or upset, it is not your job to fix it, but your job to give her a break and let her know that it’s okay. Let her know that you can hear her and that you are the pillar she can always lean on. Stay present and strong and let her know that you stay with her.
Do not take yourself so seriously. Laugh with her. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything easier.
Fill her soul every day.
Learn their love languages and the specific ways in which they feel valuable and confirmed. Ask her to create a list of 10 things she feels loved by. Remember these things and make it a priority for her to feel like a queen every day.
Give her not only your time, but also your focus, your attention and your soul. Do everything to cleanse your head, so that when you are with her, you are fully with her. Treat her like your most valuable client.
Be ready to sleep with her.
Lead her into the power of your masculinity and pervade her into the deepest levels of her soul. Let her incorporate her feminine softness, because she knows she can fully trust you.
Do not be an idiot.
You will make mistakes and so will you. Learn from the mistakes you make. You should not be perfect, just try not to be an idiot.
Give her space.
A woman can give very well, and sometimes she needs to be reminded to take time for herself. If you give her this room, she comes back with new songs to sing.
Show yourself vulnerable.
Be ready to share your fears and feelings and quickly acknowledge your mistakes.
Be completely transparent.
If you want to have confidence, you have to be ready to share ALL. Especially the things you do not want to share. It takes courage to love completely, to fully open your heart and let it in.
Never stop growing together.
The standing pond produces malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Find common goals, dreams, and visions to work with.
Do not worry about money.
Money is a game, finding ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates argue. Figure out how you can use the strength of both people to win.
Forgive her immediately …
… and focus on the future instead of carrying the legacies of the past with you. Sticking to past mistakes that either you or she has made is a heavy anchor for your marriage and will hold you back.
Always choose the love.
In the end, this is the only help you need. If this is the guiding principle for all of your decisions to be made, there is nothing that could endanger the happiness of your marriage.
After all, marriage is not about happy times. It is about a commitment to grow together and a willingness to invest continuously in something that can last forever.
This work will bring luck. Marriage is life and will bring ups and downs. These are lessons that I Gain in the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.
But these are lessons that I would like to pass on. The truth is, I loved being married, and in time I will remarry, and if I do, I will build the marriage with a foundation that will stand up to any storm.