Are We Still Attached To The People We Lost?

Sometimes in life you stay attached to the people you have lost over the years, be they, lovers or friends because in some ways they are like you.

It has probably happened to you before. You met your ex in a mall that is closest to you but the furthest from their home. Or did you take a look at her new partner who bears a great deal of resemblance to … you? Most people can dismiss these little incidents as coincidences. But I’m here to tell you something that you may or may not like to hear.

These “insignificant” acts are little things we are aware of, but we don’t know if they decided to have a pizza delivered to your door one evening just an hour before you decided the same thing to do. Or if they shared a post that came through your feed that you couldn’t resist either.

We are always attached to the people in our life who are no longer in it, be it an old friend or friend or a best friend that we no longer speak to. I don’t want to mean that these old feelings are there because people are able to move on and they should never feel attached to the past. But this is about a phenomenon that we cannot control and something that they should learn to appreciate and understand.

The truth is that these old lovers or friends crossed our path for a reason, and it’s important to understand why they did it.

You see, we usually bond with those who think like us. Sometimes we make friends because of differences, but we bond when we have things in common – a love for a particular activity, a similar fashion style or taste in music, and even a shared hatred for something.

Is it so absurd to think that the person you once dated crossed your path because they thought the way you did?

Deep down, they wanted to see the movie in the cinema on the same day you decided to do it, or they were sitting at the bar at the same time as you because they wanted to get drunk too. And that’s exactly why you two not only found each other, but decided to create great memories together.

So why, when these relationships end, do many people sigh in disgust when they see these people again? Or feel tones of fear or horror?

If you’ve ever lost someone, for better or worse, you will likely encounter those people again in your life, and when you do, they will learn to appreciate that these people think like you in some ways.

And isn’t it cool to know that even when things have ended and you have no feelings of regret, that person has allowed you to be less alone for that little moment of the time you were together feeling?

I think recognizing that is very special.

Just because you stop talking to someone doesn’t mean there is nothing left. You will always be bound to some people in some way that you lose in your life, and that really isn’t that far-fetched or weird. It’s just how the universe works, you know.