We hate to hear it, we hate to admit it, but unfortunately sometimes love is not enough to make a relationship last.
Of course, it is essential, but it is only one piece of the puzzle.
There are other crucial pieces that must come together to form a whole.
What is usually forgotten is an obvious thing, that love requires two people – two who make efforts, who invest equally, and meet half-way.
We fail in our relationships whenever we think that loving so deeply will suffice for two.
It never is. He will always be missing something.
Take a look at the 9 most common reasons your relationship will not work, even if your feelings are true:
1. Your future plans are not the same
He does not see himself married. You can not imagine living in the countryside.
One of you does not want to have children and the other can not imagine a future without them.
And no matter how much you feel for each other, at some point you will have to face the fact that you will be unhappy if you sign up for a life you do not really want.
2. There are trust issues that can not be solved
We all know that relationships are not sustainable if there is no trust.
However, sometimes we try to do our best to restore that trust, to make things work, because we care so much about each other and we do not want to let go.
When someone betrays us or makes us doubt him in any way, there is always a seed of doubt that remains permanently implanted, which is difficult to get rid of.
Sooner or later you will see that there is no option but to break.
3. His family does not accept you
It’s a hard pill to swallow because it has nothing to do with you two or your love, but that ruins your relationship anyway.
There are mothers, for example, who think that no one is good enough for their sons.
There are also situations in which some family members want to make you look bad.
If he is close and attached to his family and he can not stand up to them when they mistreat or silence them when they try to fill his head with nonsense, it will only be a matter of time before that they manage to separate you.
4. Every day is more dramatic than the previous one
You pray for a relationship without drama, but it seems impossible.
You and your partner are on the back of each other 24/7 and you always have new things about what to argue for or at least discuss at length.
You do not even remember the last time you had a whole week of peace and harmony.
After one or two days of calm, the storms come again and you are overall speaking sadder than happy.
Despite all the undeniable love you share, you are just not compatible.
You are unable to see things the same way and there is probably no chance that you will succeed one day.
5. “Is it really my love forever?” Keeps ringing in your head
There are some things that do not work in your relationship, no matter how much you try or how much you invest.
You have the impression that everything comes from your side and that he is not an active participant.
You like it, but you do not know if you are loved in the same way and it kills you slowly.
That’s why you are unable to get rid of the impression that there may be something better.
Trust your guts. The fact is that when we meet our love forever, we do not even ask ourselves the question, we just know it.
Not everything is perfect, but two people who want to stay together and love each other unconditionally are what makes the difference.
6. You can not cross the physical distance
Relationships can be difficult. Remote relationships can be even more difficult.
It is extremely difficult to maintain a relationship when you do not live in the same city, the same country or even the same continent.
If you do not plan to live in the same place one day, if none of you are ready to move, then you are only delaying the inevitable.
You can not be a distant couple forever, are you?
7. L*st is an unknown thought in your relationship
Somewhere along the way, s*xual tensions have ceased to exist and now you are no more than two friends sharing an apartment or preventing one another from ending up alone. This is not the real deal.
The other possible scenario is that you entered into this relationship because you developed strong feelings of friendship for that certain person and you thought the spark would come on later.
I’m sorry to tell you, but it will never happen.
Chemistry, desire, attraction and s*x are what separate a relationship from friendship, and although they are not the most important components, they play a big role.
8. He is jealous
I think there is a good deal of jealousy in every relationship and it’s more than adequate.
This can even be flattering at times. But once this healthy limit is crossed, a relationship can turn into hell.
If your partner wants to know your every move, gets angry every time you talk to someone of the opposite s*x, accuses you of deception without good reason, you can say he is too jealous and mentally choking you.
9. It is abusive
It goes without saying that this is an unhealthy relationship and that you should go out as soon as possible if you find yourself in any situation of abuse.
We hear a lot of women say that they like their abuser despite all the mental or physical harm they do to them.
It’s really hard to break that unhealthy bond they feel, but the sooner it’s done, the better.
True love will never hurt you in any way; all the rest is nothing but lies.