8 signs you’ve finally found true love
When will I set love free? Will I ever be able to set love free? I asked myself that. True love. long love love that endures. The man I would one day put on my comfortable slippers and grow old with. Who would be my companion and accomplice?
First I always had to stay within myself, recover and heal. I needed to build my self-esteem before I could start dating again. Dating too quickly when unsure would only attract the wrong type of partner. I had to be whole in myself first. If you are wondering:
Will I ever set love free? Does true love even exist?
yes she does Yes you can and you will find them. But first you must free and heal yourself.
Release true love
When I wasn’t even looking, true love set me free in the form of this man! We recently celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary. We have lived a happy married life. he is my true love
Friends and colleagues have often observed us and said:
You are so lucky! He’s such a good man.
I hear that a lot.
I know how lucky I am. The man I married before him almost killed me. This increases his friendliness even more. Our relationship is very different from the toxic ones I’ve had in the past. This is true love. True relationships are difficult to free.
Signs that you are truly in love
1. You trust each other
Nothing is hidden. You can be honest with each other. You are vulnerable without being afraid. Have full confidence that if you identify your weaknesses and flaws, they will not later use them as a weapon against you. The more vulnerability you share with one another, the greater the trust between you.
This is how you forge a real connection. Love grows in the long run.
2. Your happiness does not depend on the other partner
When I was in an relationship , my happiness depended on my ex’s whims and behavior. My highs were euphoric when he told me he loved me, my lows were low when he abused me. I had low self esteem.
Abusive relationships are in a dependency. Two insecure people who both expect the other to make them happy. This is not a recipe for true love. A love that endures. When your happiness depends on others, you are held hostage to external fate. You feel like you are not in control of your life.
It was only when I filled the void of not feeling worthy that I was able to break free from someone who treated me the same way. I had to love myself first and release the happiness inside me. If I didn’t, I would repeat the pattern. Free me from yet another dysfunctional, unhealthy relationship.
Two adults can have a healthy relationship. But only if they are healthy and whole in themselves.
They have a strong sense of self and a sense of their self worth. Your happiness does not depend on the other. They are complete and happy as individuals when alone. That they free each other is a bonus. The icing on the cake. Together they are even stronger than the sum of their parts.
3. You can let the other go
You don’t play games. You don’t have to. There is no need for control.
Because you are secure within yourself first, you do not feel threatened to let the other go. You are not afraid that they will leave you. There is no jealousy because you have full trust. You can love each other unconditionally. You are not afraid to let the other partner go. You live your life and let them live their life the way they choose and how it makes them happiest.
My husband and I have a lot in common: our core values, dreams and goals. But we are also different. I love that he hangs out with guys, rides bikes and trains with other guys for the extreme sporting events he loves. He doesn’t mind if I go on a girls’ night out with my girlfriends.
4. You respect each other
What this marriage has taught me is that love is a verb, not a noun. It’s not enough to tell someone you love them if your actions don’t say the same. My ex was good at telling me the words I wanted to hear. But he never put it into practice. His actions were the opposite of what he said, and so his words remained empty promises.
With my husband, words and deeds match. He does what he says. He shows me respect. He treats me with kindness. Of course, we have gone through some difficult times along the way. But what kept us on the right track was showing our love. To be friendly. Treating your partner with respect.
And it’s not just about yourself. When I hear him talking about me to others, his face lights up a little. He always says nice things. I do exactly the same.
5. You are happy when he is happy
It’s not the same as when your happiness depends on her happiness. It means that you don’t feel threatened when they are happy and strong within themselves. you are pleased If a new promotion at work upsets them, celebrate their success with them. When others tell you how fabulous they look, you don’t get jealous. you agree
Am I not the lucky one?
6. Your arguments are not psychological warfare
When I was with my ex I walked on eggshells. I never knew when he would attack me. If you experience gaslighting, you know what I mean about arguments being like psychological warfare. It shouldn’t be like that.
In a healthy relationship, it’s okay to vent, get angry, or get angry with your partner. You can have different opinions, but you can also see each other’s point of view. When the dust settles, my husband and I can apologize if we’re wrong. Usually it’s so out of character for us to argue that we end up laughing anyway.
7. You are both friends and lovers
I find it funny sometimes that we’re best friends one minute and frolicking between the sheets the next. You think:
Shouldn’t it feel weird having love with my best friend?
But that’s not it. It works. We don’t just love each other, we like each other too. That was the moment I knew my relationship with my ex wasn’t true love. Or love that endures. I loved him, but I found I didn’t like him anymore. We didn’t have much in common.
My husband and I have a strong friendship, and our core values, beliefs, and goals are aligned. He brings out the best in me and I bring out the best in him. Alone we are strong. Destined for each other we are impressive.
8. You are there for each other
Especially when push comes to shove. I always joke with my husband that he swore to me to love me in sickness and in sickness, that’s how poor my health is. But it’s about more than that. We’re there for each other no matter what.
There are times when I need him to be strong for me. There are other moments when he is not afraid to let me take the reins and give me strength. There were moments when we were under a lot of pressure and stress together. For example when I had to close my television production company. When the global financial crash made things difficult. At the same time, his company sent him to Shanghai. If he didn’t go, he would lose his job.
We lived apart for two years until we were able to stand on our own financially again. But we supported each other, got through it and came out stronger.
Happily married life
The biggest difference between my current relationship and the toxic one with my abusive ex is that it’s effortless. I’m not saying we had to work on it. Of course we have.
But if you are in harmony with your partner, if you have great respect and unconditional love, then it also feels that way. It’s effortless. I can’t tell you how incredible that feels. Not to mention how nice it is to have someone to grow old with. Although I must add that we’re too busy adventuring to put on those comfy slippers just yet.
Will I ever be able to set love free? Will I ever be able to set true love free? A love like this? i hear you ask Yes. It’s never too late for love.
Find happiness within
Put yourself first. Build your self-esteem. Love yourself and release your inner happiness. Only when you are complete, good, and true to yourself will you be good in a relationship. Don’t go out if you’re still unsure. Always be calm and work on your self-esteem first. That’s the key.
Ask yourself: do I deserve better? Is this relationship healthy and will it last? If not, don’t waste your precious time and energy on it. Life is too short.
Are you looking for true love? true relationships? Have you unlocked your happiness after an abusive relationship? Let me know in the comments below.