Do you know the moments when your heart just got broken and you think, “I should have known, I really should have known”? Well, I hate to say it, but yes, you really should have done that. Unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do about it now except spending a little time in the silence and then moving your ass off the couch and pulling your cover up again.
Here is a list of situations in which falling in love causes only a heartache, with the aim of avoiding the same mistake.
1. Do not fall into a relationship that started with lust.
This is the kind of love story that has adorned both the big screen and the small screen many, many times and that has led many of us to think that we too could fall in love with a one-night stand. But here in the real world it is different. Just because you lost your heart when you came to his apartment that night does not mean he did it. The difference between a physical and an emotional connection is very well known, and it’s time for you to learn a thing or two. Otherwise you will end up alone. Heartbroken. And unhappy.
2. Do not be fooled if the relationship has a specific deadline
He moves to another city in a year. Or he starts a whole new life towards the end of winter. For whatever reason, your time with them has a certain time limit. Deadlines are called so for good reason; it’s usually the end of the road. You’re not driving faster in a dead end, are you? Why do you then fall in love with a dead end? You know that you will end up alone. Heartbroken. And unhappy.
3. Do not be disappointed if there are 20 million kilometers between you.
Long distance relationships require a lot of effort and they bring you a lot of emotional struggles. One day you’ll wonder if it’s really worth it. When you start asking yourself, you will not be able to think about whether the other side thinks the same. The tension builds up until it’s over – BUM, and it’s over. And you are left alone. Heartbroken. And unhappy.
4. Do not fall in long, wonderful conversations.
Everyone has come to understand that no one can have the kind of connection you have. It goes beyond normal human interaction and reaches deep into the soul. It’s something special, something out of the ordinary, something unique. Here is a short message for you: That’s what all lovers think. Falling in love on such a deep and personal level is the most beautiful feeling in the world, but it also invites the worst kind of heartbreak. And loneliness. And misery.
5. Do not fall in love “despite what they say”
Well, people will always have many stupid reasons why you should not be with the person you love. Maybe it’s the difference in the background. Maybe it’s the difference in attractiveness. Maybe it’s because of the different properties. These people are ridiculous and you should ignore them. But if all your family members and friends begin to disapprove, something is definitely wrong. They will always take care of you. If every one of them expresses any form of disapproval, then you must either re-evaluate the friends you have won or let your lover go fast before he does so and leaves you alone, heartbroken and miserable.
6. Do not be disappointed when the red flag is raised and beckons.
You’ll want to ignore it, because you’re already starting to enjoy yourself. Maybe it’s his political views, maybe it’s his misogyny, or maybe it’s his cleanliness (or lack thereof). The voice on the back of your head tells you it’s a red warning flag, but your heart, that damn thing, tells you you can overcome it. Here’s what’s going to happen if you follow this: you’ll be able to ignore it in the first few days, months, maybe even years, if you’re a saint. But in the end, that will take you slowly, until it comes between you two. Then he leaves you. And you will be heartbroken, alone and unhappy.
7. Do not fall in love if he will never be in love.
Do not fall in love with a person with attachment problems. The excuses “I did not know that he is not the type for a bond” are not necessary. You knew it. You knew it. Do you think you can change it? No way. You can not correct a person. You can not change a person. He will do what he wants and he will leave you alone. Heartbroken. And unhappy.
8. Do not fall in love again.
Fall in love with you to feel that enchanting kind of happiness that only love can bring. To feel loved, to feel special. To have the feeling of owning the world because you have it and nothing else matters. But only a heartache is enough. And to bring yourself through another is just stupid. No one wants to feel heartbroken and alone and miserable a second time.
But forget all that.
Forget the reasons why you should not fall in love.
Forget when you should not fall in love. Forget not to fall in love. Because when it matters, your heart will do what it wants. That’s the magic of love; It makes even the most intelligent people forget all logic and common sense. So you can just sit back and enjoy the ride. Forget the statistics that tell you that there is a 98% chance that you will end up unhappy.
Fall in love, because you will anyway. Fall in love deeply. Fall in love with you. Love yourself completely. Despite everything, because who knows? Maybe you are the exception.