Are you wondering how to let go of love for your crush? Are you madly in love with someone and the feelings are not reciprocated?
There is nothing worse than loving and not being loved, but holding onto love with no future will only prevent you from finding the love that you are looking for.
So how can you let go of your crush if they don’t have a crush on you? How can you dare the difficult step of parting with them and moving on?
I’ve seen it before, and so have many of my customers. Let us help you get through it.
Here’s how to let go of love for your crush when they don’t have a crush on you
1. Check yourself out.
Do you have a crush on someone and have you convinced yourself that if you hold out long enough, they’ll notice you and fall in love with you, and live happily ever after? Have you been holding onto it for a while but nothing has changed?
I have a client who had a serious crush on a guy. They had been friends years ago and he showed up again. She thought that his return to her life was a sign that they should be together.
For a year she held on to the hope that they could be together. He gave her mixed messages, on the one hand he told her that he didn’t want a relationship, on the other hand, he had love with her. He came and went and yet she held on to her hope for her, which slowly died every time he left.
Ultimately, she realized that she had created her “great love story” in her head and she knew she had to let him go. And the first thing she had to do was come to terms with the fact that he didn’t love her back.
It was incredibly painful, but it was the first step in letting go of the unrequited love and setting off on your way to find someone who would love you back.
2. No contact. None.
I know we all think we need a “degree” when we have to break up with someone, that final conversation where everyone can say what they want to say and understand each other and break up as friends.
I’m here to tell you that graduation is a myth. What a degree really is is one last chance to hang out and talk to the person you still love in hopes that they might change their mind.
Because really, if you were able to have a conversation and finally understand each other, why shouldn’t it also work as a couple? Right? Not correct!
So, once you’ve made up your mind that you need to go away and move in, go ahead and prohibit contact immediately. Block them on your phone, disconnect on social media, stay away from places that you know they will be there.
Why? Because what you have to do is break your dependence on this person and change your habits. Having all contact with them will only stop you from moving on!
Think of oreo cookies. Do you know how hard it is to eat just one? It’s the same with your crush. Even a single point of contact can pull you back into their circle, the circle you are dying to break out of.
So get in touch immediately. That will make the process a lot easier!
3. Do something you’ve always wanted to do.
Another important thing to know if you’re wondering how to let go of love for your crush is to do something you’ve always wanted to do. Don’t sit around feeling sorry for your emptiness – do something with it.
A client of mine broke up with a man she desperately loved but who was unable to bond with her. She was devastated.
I asked her to name a few things she always wanted to do. One of the things that came to mind was writing. In this day and age, it’s entirely possible to write and get what you write to the masses without going through the process of publishing a book or getting a magazine to publish your article. You can simply write a blog and post it on a variety of platforms on the internet.
My client started writing about her broken heart, what had happened, her insights into what she could have done differently, how she felt after he was out of her life. It was hard work for her, emotionally, but soon she began to gain a following. Other women who went through the same thing appreciated her written words and started commenting on her articles. As a result, she built a small community of women who supported one another through the tough times.
What is it that you always wanted to do? Pick one thing and start doing it. You have the time. Life is short. Don’t waste it!
4. Spend time with people who love you.
Often times, when we are rejected by someone we have a crush on, we feel terrible about ourselves. We feel that we are not lovable and will never be loved again.
Spending time with friends and family who love you, who recognize you as an amazing and lovable person, will help you move forward and find someone worthy of you.
5. Take care of yourself.
When your heart is broken and you feel like your life is over, one of the best things you can do is take care of yourself. Your body and mind may feel broken, but some care will help them heal.
When my husband left me, I was devastated and alone. My house was empty, my kids were gone, and my husband didn’t come home at the end of the day. My days were endless and I didn’t know how to survive being alone.
One day a Groupon from Massage Envy appeared in my inbox offering a 60 minute massage for $ 40. I had nothing to do so I bought the Groupon and made an appointment for a massage. This massage was one of the best hours of my life. I was in a warm room, on a comfortable lounger, and a lovely woman took care of my pain and made me feel loved and cared for.
That day, as I came out of the spa feeling rejuvenated and alive, I realized that I should do things that would comfort me and help me move forward. From that day on, I spent some time each day doing things that were good for me. I did yoga, went for walks, hung out antiques with friends, and drank whiskey by the fire on cold winter nights.
By caring for myself, by loving myself, I was able to get the strength I needed to let go of the loss of my marriage.
6. Believe that your love is out there for you.
I find that this is the biggest obstacle for my clients to part with someone who doesn’t love them – believing that they will never find love again.
Almost without exception, people who are in relationships that do not make them happy do not leave them because they believe that there will never be another person for them. That if they part with this person, they will be alone forever!
But that’s just not true. There are many, many fish in the sea and there is one for you.
Of course, if you never get a chance to go fishing because you’re still with that idiot who doesn’t love you, then you won’t find that person. But if you are brave enough to act and break up with the idiot, then you will prepare yourself to find the love of your life.
Knowing why and how to let go of love for your crush is key to being able to do so successfully.
You still love her, but you know that you have to let her go because of the pain they are causing you. It will be difficult, but it is possible!
Be honest with yourself about the chance that they will ever love you back, cut them off completely, do the things you’ve always wanted to do, and hang out with friends. Take care of yourself and hold on to the belief that you will find the love you are looking for.
You will. If you can let go of someone who doesn’t love you back and stop wasting time, you will! I promise to you.
If you’ve made it this far, you really need to want to know how to let go of love for your crush.
Let me help you NOW so that you can go ahead and find love.