5 ways to know when it’s time to break up with someone
If you’re reading this article, chances are you’re going through ups and downs in your relationship. There are many moments when arguments and emotional differences can make you doubt your relationship. But if the issues are bigger than your bond with your partner, then you should pay attention to the signs of whether or not it’s time to break up.
Knowing when it’s time to break up with someone is one of the hardest things to do. We go into a relationship with so many hopes and dreams, and when things go wrong it’s hard for us to face the facts. As a result, we have trouble figuring out when it’s time to break up with someone because we just don’t want to admit it.
I guess all your friends tell you lots of reasons why you should break up with your partner but you think they don’t know them as well as you do so why should you listen to them?
Here are the 5 signs it’s time to break up with your partner
I’m here to tell you that there are five specific, universal signs to look out for to know when it’s time to break up with someone. Listen and learn them…
1. When she lies to you more than once.
Does your personality lie to you? Does she keep lying to you? If so, then it might be time to break up with him/her. We all tell lies. Sometimes it’s little white lies that keep us from hurting someone else. Sometimes we lie because we’re ashamed of something we’ve done. Sometimes the lies are unintentional.
The difference between these kinds of lies and the kind of lies that show it’s time to break up with someone is their frequency.
Are you getting rid of constantly catching your person lying? Is he or she lying about why he or she came home late, why he or she can’t see you, who he or she was seeing, or if he or she forgot the dishes in the sink?
Worse, does the person keep baiting you on the same subject, sometimes with different lies, but often with just one version of the previous one?
People who lie in a relationship do so to protect themselves. They know they are doing things they shouldn’t and feel guilty about it, so they lie. They don’t want to argue with you about the dishes in the sink, so they lie. They don’t want you to come with them, so they lie.
And do they keep lying when they get caught in a lie? If you find that your persona keeps lying to you, it’s definitely time to break up with them.
Healthy relationships are built on trust, and if you can’t trust who you are, you have no chance of being happy. Also, a person who keeps lying to you is not someone who loves and respects you the way you deserve to be loved and respected.
After all, who wants to spend their whole life not believing anything that person tells them. To me, that sounds like a recipe for disaster!
2. When they disappear.
Be honest. Was your person always there and available at the beginning of your relationship? Has he been texting you all day, calling you late at night, always wanting to know what you’re doing, what you’re wearing, and when he’ll see you next? And do they still do that? The same applies here: be honest.
An important sign that it’s time to break up with someone is when the other person disappears. If they usually text you good morning and stop doing it, it’s a sign that they can’t stand you anymore. If she disappears for a few hours where she would normally be available, that’s a sign that you can’t trust her/him. If they say they want to spend time with you but then have an excuse to do something else, you can’t ask yourself why they didn’t want to be with you.
Imagine having a friend who constantly deserts you, doesn’t reply to your texts, cancels appointments, and disappears when you need him. Would you stay with a friend like that? Would you invest more time in someone who doesn’t give you the respect and time you deserve? Of course you wouldn’t do that. That friend would be immediately sidelined.
So if you were to let go of a friend who did this, why not let go of a person who is doing this to you? A lover who does this to you is even worse than a friend because they should be your person, they should put you first, they should love and respect you enough to be there when they say so.
If your persona is still disappearing, you should stop making excuses for them and let them go.
3. If history should repeat itself again.
Ok, we’ve talked about lies and disappearances and the fact that if these things keep happening, it’s definitely time to break up with someone.
People fight, people abuse each other, people call each other bad names. People disappear and reappear without an apology. You break up with a partner and then get back together. People continue watching the series you watched together.
These things happen – we are only human and we make mistakes all the time. That aside, if you find that you and your person keep having the same argument, it might be time to end it.
If you find yourself breaking up and getting back together, and then breaking up and getting back together, it’s definitely a sign that next time you break up, your relationship should stop.
If your person is dating their ex and lying about it, over and over again, then it is definitely time to end the relationship. So are you thinking about your relationship? Should the same things happen over and over again with nothing changing? Are you made promises that things will be different next time only to be exactly the same? Do you keep breaking free from the same stupid things without finding a solution?
If you’ve said yes to any of these, that’s a sign it’s time to break up with someone.
4. When they remind you of your ex.
During an argument with yourself, do you break free and suddenly it occurs to you that she’s just like your ex? When your partner comes up with another excuse for not being there, do you think back to all the times your ex did the same thing?
When you reach out for a hug and it’s rejected, do you remember that your ex always had an excuse why he couldn’t touch you?
After a breakup, unless we take the time to figure out what went wrong and make a commitment not to make the same mistakes again, we tend to choose the same type of person over and over again. The result is that we break free in the same situation over and over again – in an unhappy relationship.
If you recognize your ex in your current partner, then that is definitely a sign that it is time to break up with him. After all, your ex is your ex for a reason. Do you want to waste your time repeating history, or do you want to go now and free someone who is so similar to your ex that they could make you overjoyed?