Ironically, even the most honest and pure “love” can be faked with ease, without much effort. This love is quite tricky and distinguishes a real relationship from one that stinks of lust, betrayal, or just comfort.
A real relationship requires a lot of effort, great emotions and honesty. An affair may seem like a simple business, but in the long run, a real relationship is always a better choice than a confused fast relationship. The men who just want to get you to bed don’t have the guts to try to establish a true relationship. Because quite simply and honestly: loyalty is not for everyone.
Not everyone who says these cheesy words really loves you. Because love requires a lot of effort, effort and dedication and not everyone is ready for it. Men can manipulate you and make you feel that they are right for you and their love is real, while all they want is to get you to bed or maybe they just don’t want to be alone.
Here are 5 signs that show that he doesn’t love you, but that you are only practical:
1. You don’t know each other’s family or friends.
I was once so in love that I wanted to climb the highest tower in my city and tell the whole world how much I loved it. Okay, that’s a little over the top now and you don’t have to do it in a relationship, but anyone who is serious will try to make you part of their lives. He will want you to get to know his friends and family and feel comfortable.
He’ll never do that unless he sees a future with you, but when he does, he sees you next to you and wants you to know what life is like around him.
Not introducing yourself to parents or friends even after months of relationship can only mean two things, either he doesn’t see a future with you and wants to split up or he was never interested in you, but only in sex with you.
If neither of you ever thought of it, you may have had no affection for one another, and maybe you both just wanted physical intimacy all the time.
2. There are no extraordinary memories.
Love is an extraordinary feeling, and if you feel a little less than the amazing, is it love at all? If your relationship is like every other day of your life and there is nothing that touches you, makes you laugh, or gives you a special feeling, then that cannot be a real relationship.
There must be something, something! The times when you laughed at stupid jokes, stupid nicknames, or anything. It doesn’t have to be a big event or adventure, because every little moment that brought you closer is special. It can also be the moments that remind you of him, for example when you see a post on Facebook and it remembers him and you mark him.
It can be a post about a movie or a meme about an incident that you can identify with. It’s that simple. If nothing happens, nothing happens. If sex is what your memories are limited to, you should know that it is not a real relationship.
3. You have poor communication
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. If you can’t remember the last time you poured each other’s hearts out, then you’re not really in love. You need to know what’s going on in your partner’s life.
You should have nightly conversations every now and then. They will do you good.
If you have to find out where your partner is on social networks and Facebook reminds you when it’s birthday, then your relationship can’t be real!
It doesn’t mean you have to keep sending him messages, but at least enough to know what he’s up to. You need to have honest conversation in which you are both vulnerable and open to each other’s hearts. Your conversations shouldn’t be limited to what sexual adventure you imagine in bed or something else about sex, because love is much more than that.
4. When sex is more important than anything else.
That is the most obvious sign. If sex is the only thing that connects you, you two are passionate and hot in bed, but when it comes to communication, you are clueless. If sex is the only thing that makes you feel synchronized or connected, you are not in a real relationship that will last long.
A real relationship is about true and pure emotions, passion, love, trust and not just passion in bed. Because that has a completely different name, namely “sex with certain advantages”. As already mentioned, wrong relationships are usually there to get you to bed and those who want to do so do nothing.
He’ll pretend he’s head over heels in love with you and make you feel like you’re on top of the world, with all the romantic flirting and kitschy love stuff. It should be clear to you that everything he says so that you feel good and win yourself over, in the beginning, is not because of love.
If your guy places sex over true emotions and love and if you share the bed more than your feelings, then that’s not a true relationship.
5. The ego is bigger than love.
When you start a new relationship, the first thing you have to leave behind is your ego. Because letting go of the ego is essential for every relationship. If it is more important to always be right than knowing how your partner feels, then something is wrong with the relationship.
If a partner can go to the most extreme limits to prove their point of view, regardless of what their partner feels, it clearly means that their ego is greater than their love.