5 ingredients to attract happiness and healthy relationships in life
Happiness, like sadness, is also temporary and we all know that there is no magic cure for pain. That’s life, that’s how it should be, with ups and downs. We cannot be happy every day, there will be days when we are down and sad, but there are certain character traits that help us attract happiness.
Let’s take a look at some of these character traits to attract happiness and healthy relationships in your life:
There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance. If your confidence consists in belittling or belittling someone, then it is arrogance. You cannot be good or great by belittling others. The urge to impress others and to praise yourself, to show off your money or materialistic possessions shows how insecure and unhappy you are.
Happy people are content in themselves, they don’t need to advertise their achievement. Happy people get their confidence from helping others, even when it overshadows them. Name and fame are not what they seek, recognition is not their aim, but kindness and generosity.
Happy people believe in lifting people up instead of pushing them down. They know their abilities and they know they cannot reach heights using humans as stairs. They don’t pretend, they are what they are and it is their true selves that draw happiness to them.
When you are true to yourself there is no mask and people see you for who you really are and love you for it. That way, your positive vibes will attract healthy people and your relationships will be healthier.
Positivity is a heavy word. There’s a difference between having a positive attitude and faking positivity. Seriously folks, cut it out! There’s no such thing as faking positivity, you don’t have to put a smile on your face all day, and you don’t have to pretend everything that happens to you is totally okay! No, it’s not okay, and that’s not positivity, it’s stupidity.
With a positive attitude, you don’t pretend that every wrong thing that happens to you is okay, rather you acknowledge that it is wrong and then you accept the change necessary to make it happen. You work to clear it up and make sure it doesn’t repeat itself when it’s wrong. You are not obliged to do everything.
It’s okay to fail, it’s okay not to enjoy every moment, and it’s okay not to like people. The thing about positive people is that they don’t give up when they fall and a bad day is more of a lesson for them. They look for the good part, the silver lining, in the bad things. Remind yourself that you must first acknowledge the problem and then you will see the lesson it has taught you.
And most importantly, positive people don’t let their anger at the bad day absorb the good and do it to other people. They don’t throw tantrums and don’t move on when they’re hurt. You are calm, silent, depressed of course, but with the will to get up again.
3) Open and authentic
Open here refers to open to connections. Happiness is contagious and a happy person makes those around them happy. Happiness like positivity is not something to fake, even if you do, you can’t get away with it.
Sticking that plastic smile on your face and trying to be good to everyone sets off alarm bells. People are wary and something inside them tells them not to trust you because if you pretend you are not authentic. Pretending creates distrust and you can’t connect with people if you wrap yourself in a veil of lies.
It’s okay to show them your flaws, be the real you, and show who you really are. When you’re genuine, people around you feel safe and that creates a connection. Good relationships (connections) keep us happy and to achieve that you cannot go around and put on the mask of happiness.
When you are genuine and authentic, people around you will feel comfortable being genuine too. That way, the connection you form is authentic and the relationship you form will bring you happiness.
4) Generosity and kindness over materialistic possessions
What are the real treasures in life? Cars? Property? Gold? At first glance we might say yes, but are they really? Money can’t buy happiness is a controversial statement, but it holds some truth.
Our life experiences are our true treasures. The materialistic possessions may make us happy for a short while, but real happiness comes from the relationships we build, the experiences we have.
What money does is buy us comfort and give us a sense of choice that is really very temporary. When you have money you can make different choices and that’s how the world works, lack of money limits your choices and that often makes people sad and unhappy.
But choices don’t always bring happiness, the new clothes or cars or gadgets give you happiness that lasts shorter than the stuff itself. A night out with friends gives you more lasting happiness than a whole day of shopping.
Doing things you love gives you real happiness, a cup of coffee with friends, a walk in the evening, spending time with your family, playing with kids and dogs, those little things we often tend to ignore , are what bring us happiness, when we are kind to people we deserve blessings and smiles and that gives us happiness.
The main reason for so much chaos and unhappiness in this world is a lack of empathy in people. No one tries to understand anyone’s feelings, ego seems to have blinded people. Happy people are wise and keep their egos in check. When someone does something wrong, they don’t take it personally and get angry or sad, but try to understand what motivated them to do what they did.
These are five personality traits you need to attract happiness into your life.