17 reasons why losing it almost destroyed you when you weren’t officially together
Why it almost destroyed you losing him when you were never officially together
You may not have been together long enough to make it official, but you liked him so much. It’s hard to admit that you let yourself go there to be hurt and disappointed again. These are the reasons why you feel heartache even though you only knew it for a short time.
1. SOMETIMES LOSING SOMEONE QUICKLY IS WORSE.
You feel like he didn’t even give you a fair chance. You just met and then he freaked out and threw everything. You have the feeling that you never found out how you really would have been as a couple.
2. ALL YOU HAVE ARE HAPPY MEMORIES.
Because you just saw each other for so short, you don’t have those ugly memories of what didn’t work that would have accumulated during a long relationship. You only have memories of how excited you were about him and how happy he made you. It really makes you angry that he gave up so quickly.
3. HE KEPT MAKING YOU LAUGH.
You haven’t met a man in a long time who made you so crazy. When it comes to dating, you think being able to laugh together is incredibly important. You miss the way he kept you in a good mood.
4. IT WAS STILL FRESH AND EXCITING.
You hardly had to do anything special to keep the tension going. You were enough for both of you. You could get to know him so much better. You wanted to share all kinds of new experiences. But you will never get closer to him and you hate it.
5. YOU HAVE JUST STARTED TO LEARN MORE ABOUT EACH OTHER.
One of the best aspects of a new relationship is removing the layers and slowly getting to know someone you really care about. You have rarely been inspired when you have met someone new. Most men just bore you. But not him! It doesn’t matter anymore – unfortunately.
6. YOU FELT CONNECTED TO HIM.
There was a spark that none of you could deny. You had a lot in common and got along incredibly well. You felt you could really be yourself and it meant a lot to you. You just don’t find that often.
7. YOUR TIME TOGETHER WAS SHORT BUT HAPPY.
You weren’t together long enough to feed each other or to have big arguments. You were still excited to see him and felt butterflies in your stomach when you kissed.
8. YOU HAVEN’T BEEN TOGETHER LONG ENOUGH TO MAKE IT OFFICIAL.
Sure, you hadn’t quite reached relationship status yet, but you both understood that. None of you have met with others. You obviously had feelings for each other. You thought things were going really well, but then he canceled it.
9. THE S**X GOT BETTER AND BETTER.
It’s really difficult to let great s**x go. You didn’t have much time together, but the more comfortable you got, the better it got. He was communicative and responded to everything you wanted him to do. It was wonderful.
10. YOU IMMEDIATELY FELT COMFORTABLE WITH HIM.
Otherwise, you didn’t go well with other men. You needed a certain type of man. You have never felt so good with someone in such a short time. It was refreshing, intoxicating and addictive, and now you are alone and long for that feeling that went away much too soon.
11. HE ACCEPTED YOU AS YOU ARE.
It means a lot to you if someone thinks you who you are, no expectations, no attempts to make you a dream friend. It was so nice to be yourself. You miss his acceptance more than anything else.
12. YOU COULD TALK ABOUT EVERYTHING.
You were so excited to be with someone who talked to you about how he felt. You found it extremely difficult to meet men who do this, and you don’t take it for granted. It felt good to be able to go through things with him. And it worries you that he suddenly decided not to do it anymore.
13. HE MADE YOU THINK YOU HAD A FUTURE.
You should now know that men are too optimistic about the future, but you also want to believe in love on the other hand. You want to believe that you can connect with someone who stays with you. He saw you as part of his future, so you thought it was really going to happen.
14. YOU THOUGHT IT WAS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME BEFORE YOU WERE OFFICIALLY A COUPLE.
He spoke of you so matter-of-factly as part of his life that you assumed that you would be his girlfriend. You didn’t worry about it because you were so sure it was going to happen. Then you became blind to his inability to deal with an adult relationship.
15. HE ASSURED YOU THAT YOU WERE EVERYTHING HE WANTED.
He told you that if he was with you, that would be all he needed. He would not lie and would not cheat. You believed him, but you didn’t know that instead, he could simply decide that he didn’t want to be with you.
16. YOU TRUSTED HIM.
Although you didn’t have much time with him, you still felt safe. You could say that he was a real and honest person. Unfortunately, all of this trust didn’t matter because it violated your trust in ways you never expected. He gave up your relationship far too easily.
17. YOU THOUGHT HE WAS EMOTIONALLY MATURE ENOUGH TO BE WITH YOU.
It sucks. There is no other way to put it. It’s just sh**t because you thought you actually found the man that suits you. But he didn’t seem to be as mature as you thought.