It’s difficult to tell if you’re in a toxic relationship and what’s best for yourself when you’re in such a relationship. It is not always easy to remember who you are and what you want.
You can start loving yourself and forget to make yourself and your happiness a priority.
There is a lot of crappiness we endure because the pain that certain relationships bring to us is less intimidating than the pain of letting go of the person you love. There is nothing wrong with admitting that a relationship is over.
Even if you can not imagine your life without this person, with time and distance, you will be able to see the relationship for what it was: poisonous as hell.
Signs of toxic relationship
1. Passive Aggression
The whole “I hate it when you do that, but I keep it to myself and throw you dodgy little sidelong glances.” Thing is unnecessary.
Once you can no longer deal directly with your partner, you have lost the bond on which your relationship was originally built.
2. Jealousy and guilt
We are all human, so jealousy will happen at some level. But excessive jealousy is never ok. If you do not trust a relationship, you literally have nothing to hold on to.
3. Criticism and contempt
No one is perfect, and the closer you get to someone, the more noticeable your imperfections will be. Criticism that comes from a positive point of view is not wrong.
When criticism is used as a means of expressing contempt or contempt for someone else, it can make the other person feel unvalued and worthless. It’s hard for a relationship to come back from that.
4. Argue without communicating
We all know that it makes no sense to yell at each other.
It is natural to get upset and quarrel, but if there is no communication in the relationship and neither party tells why he or she feels that way, nothing is resolved.
5. Negative energy
The feeling of being uncomfortable or tense around someone is just a body reaction to the negative energy that surrounds you both.
Negativity can empty you mentally, physically and mentally. Unfortunately, we are forced to deal with it, but your partner should be a pardon from any stress.
6. Avoid each other
You should at least be able to tolerate the presence of your partner. If you can not even make yourself close to him or her, you really should just stop.
7. You are not yourself.
Changes will take place independently of this. If you are in a relationship, even if both change, you should go in the same direction.
If your relationship changes you, it should just make you a better version of yourself. If you feel like you are losing yourself, or if you do not recognize who you are, it is no longer healthy.
8. The feeling that it is meaningless
There is a difference between staying in a relationship because you are comfortable and staying because you really want to be there.
When you feel like your relationship is not going anywhere, it’s time to leave.
9. You are just thinking about making him or her happy
When you are 20 years old, relationships are a trial run for marriage. You should be able to see potential if you want to spend the rest of your life with your partner, because if not, what’s the point?
You should make your partner happy, but it should be a two-way thing. Your luck should mean happiness and vice versa.
If you constantly try to make him happy but get nothing in return, then something is lost within the relationship. Happiness should be mutual.
10. You do not seem to be doing anything right.
Once you get to that point and feel as if everything you are doing annoys him, and you’re tiptoeing in your own relationship, you have to realize that you’re not the problem.
There is something your partner is unhappy with and he or she is not talking to you about it. As long as he or she is not honest, why he or she is really frustrated, nothing will suffice.
11. Growth and change are considered negative
Relationships must evolve to survive. The whole “why can not it just stay that way” mentality is not conducive to a long term relationship.
At some point, someone wants more. That’s not a bad thing, but both parties must be on the same wavelength. There is nothing wrong with taking the next step; that is a sign of maturity.
12. Remember the beginning instead of looking to the future
Memories of the in-love phase are not enough to sustain the relationship. You can not relive the past. Relationships are developing, but not always for the better. To fantasize about what once was is not to live in reality.
13. You are just not happy anymore.
What really matters is luck. You do not have to justify why you’re not happy anymore.
It is not realistic to expect that you will be happy in every moment of your relationship, but overall this person should make you happier. He or she should make you feel that he/she supports you and enables you to do whatever you want to do.
You should know that although you can not control every aspect of your life and things fall apart, that person should give you stability. He or she should help you rebuild and give you hope that things can be the way you think they should be.
If you do not have that, is it really worth it?