12 Toxic Habits Of Parents Who Unknowingly Ruin Their Kids

Being a parent is no easy task, and with so many different sources of information about the right parenting style, it can be confusing to know what to do and what not to do.

However, the wrong parenting style, even if unintentional, can cause great harm.

If you want to please your child, you should realize that we all make mistakes sometimes, and when you realize you’re making a big mistake, you should avoid it.

Many of the following mistakes are about things we do without realizing the damage we are doing.

This may be because the habit is perceived as normal, or it may be a habit that was instilled in you by your parents.

Regardless, it’s best to quit while you still can.

1. Punishing your child out of anger

Punishing your child out of anger

When you punish your child, it’s important to ask yourself: am I doing it because I’m trying to teach them something, or am I doing it because it upset me?

If you discipline out of anger, you are doing it for the wrong reasons and you will likely do something you later regret.

All parents criticize from time to time. Without this component we might never learn to do many things properly, e.g. B. Everyday tasks like doing laundry.

Toxic parents take this to the extreme by being overly critical of everything their child does.

Parents can make the mistake of believing they are doing this to ensure their children don’t make costly mistakes.

Unfortunately, the reality of this behavior is that the child develops a harsh inner critic that verges on paralysis in adulthood.

2. Compare your child to other children, especially their siblings

Compare your child to other children, especially their siblings

It’s never okay to compare your child to others, especially their siblings.

If you do this, you are teaching your child that they are not good enough.

This is terrible for your child’s mental health and self-esteem.

3. Telling your child not to cry

Telling your child not to cry

Although you probably have the best of intentions, telling your child not to get upset or cry will do more harm than good.

This sends your child the message that their feelings are not valid, which in turn makes them afraid of having feelings.

Instead, help them deal with their difficult feelings so they learn emotional intelligence.

Parents who refuse to respond to their children’s emotional needs and take lightly their children’s negative emotions set the stage for such a future.

A future in which the child is unable to express its needs.

However, total denial of a child’s negative feelings and emotional needs can lead to depression and make it difficult for them to deal with negativity appropriately as adults.

4. Giving in to your child every time they want something

Give in to your child every time they want something

It can be tempting to give your child anything they want, but doing so sends the wrong message.

When you give your child anything they want, you are telling them that they have a right to anything they want.

This also forgets the lesson of gratitude.

5. You try to be your child’s friend and not the parent

You try to be your child’s friend and not the parent

Your children need a parent, not just a friend. It’s okay to be her friend when the time is right, but most of the time you should limit yourself to being her safe place.

That is your job. Anything else is just a bonus.

6. Lazy parenting tactics

Lazy parenting tactics

Parenting is hard, I know that. But if you skip the important parts by putting your kid in front of their tablet for 6 hours while you serve them TV food and trash, you’re ruining them.

7. They offer no security

They offer no security

Children come into the world looking for two things from their parents: security and love.

They turn to their parents when they are scared and need support.

If you’re not giving your children the sense of security they need, you’re teaching them that the world is a scary place that shouldn’t be trusted.

And that, in turn, will cause them to struggle with problems for the rest of their lives.

8. You are overly critical

You are overly critical

It’s one thing to try to show your child the right path. But if you criticize everything they do and everything about them, you will give them a complex.

Not only that, it’s just plain cruel to constantly criticize your kids, so just don’t do it.

9. They don’t respect their child’s boundaries

They don’t respect their child’s boundaries

Often, toxic parents see their child as inferior just because it is a child. Children need to be allowed to have boundaries, and parents need to set boundaries for their children.

Constantly monitoring everything the kids are doing, especially as they get older, is disrespectful of their boundaries. Also, it doesn’t give them room to grow.

10. They don’t go through with it

They don’t go through with it

If you threaten consequences for bad behavior, follow them through.

If you promise to do something for your child, keep it. As simple as that.

11. They are helicopters

They are helicopters

Helicopter parenting means that a parent is constantly watching over their children and monitoring their every step.

They never give them time to themselves and fill their schedules with one activity after another, leaving no room for the free play that is so important to children’s development.

12. They don’t give their child space

They don’t give their child space

Children are human beings. You need space and time for yourself. Allow them that.

I’m not saying to leave her alone all the time, that would be awful. But a little space and time for yourself is necessary.

12 Toxic Habits Of Parents Who Unknowingly Ruin Their Kids

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