In a psychopath, of course, people think of people like the guy in “Silence of the Lambs” played by Anthony Hopkins. The kind of people who kill in a psychotic way – while the guy with whom we share a bed every night might have some of the same psychotic qualities ….
Have you ever had the feeling of running on eggshells? Do you have the impression that your partner is a bit too charming? Maybe the signs are there, you just have to know what they are. It’s important to get out of a toxic relationship with a psychopath – as soon as possible.
It seems your partner has two completely different personalities; he can change in seconds and without reason. He is one person when he is with you and another when he is with his family and friends.
When you started dating, he was charming, sincere, everything seemed perfect, and he said everything you wanted to hear. That’s because he wanted you to believe in him while in fact he was just setting a trap.
Psychopaths are experts in integrating themselves into any quantity like a chameleon.
Here’s a list of the 12 signs to look out for if you think you’re with a psychopath.
1. You feel like you are going crazy.
Psychopaths are the masters of manipulation. They have a way to transfer everything to you. You start thinking that you’re going crazy; You could start to get paranoid about things like what kind of clothes you wear, what you said, said or when people talked about you.
You start having little battles in your head, overreacting, or starting to question yourself. When you begin to question who you are and what your values are, you may be with a psychopath. They like to confuse their partners and make it almost impossible to have a logical argument.
2. You feel like you do not have your own voice anymore.
When you talk to your partner, you feel like you’re never heard, he just does not listen. It’s like talking to a wall, and your words are often taken out of context or used against you.
If you want to see a romantic movie, your partner is trying to convince you that you are stupid because you like this kind of movie, or if you tell him you want to go out for dinner, then your partner is trying to do something, what he wants to do instead. And you feel totally ignored.
3. You lie a lot
Psychopaths lie about almost everything they do! This may include where they have been, who they were with, why they were there, and the like. Psychopaths will even lie to enter into a relationship with you by telling them that they like you and the same things as you want.
But in reality, they do not like or want the same things as you do. The only thing they have in mind is the need to be in control of you. A psychopath will lie to get what he wants.
4. You feel isolated and alone.
You feel like you’re running on eggshells; the smallest things make your partner lose control. If your friends ask you to come over, or if your family invites you to dinner, you are afraid to tell your partner for fear of his reaction.
Your partner wants to know who you are friends with so that you feel guilty about spending time with them, and then you start slowly spending less time with your friends until you get the feeling that your partner is the one only person in your life is.
Psychopaths learn about your vulnerabilities and weaknesses, so they know exactly where and how they can hurt you and inflict more pain on you. They make you feel alone, confused, scared, embarrassed, or worthless until you have no confidence in yourself. All of this happens to make you feel isolated and lose all your support, giving you more power and control.
5. You feel no guilt or remorse.
Your partner hurts you physically or verbally. He promises that it was a one-time thing and that it will never happen again. But no matter what happens, it seems to happen again and again.
That’s the kind of Pupathen manipulating you. The only thing they are sorry about is getting caught. They have no regrets for their actions, and they will be able to blame you for what they have done, and you feel bad because you have said anything at all. They do not respect your feelings and what you need in a relationship.
6. They make you feel sad for them.
They tell you everything about their problems; they have been abused, fled a broken home, were not loved as a child, have an illness, or always have a psycho-ex – play the victim.
They do not feel comfortable with themselves, they feel abandoned and people leave them again and again. They even invent stories or enlarge them. Your goal is to make you feel compassion and compassion for them. The reason they do this is to manipulate you by not leaving you despite their treatment and behaviour.
7. You have a certain claim on you.
When your partner does something nice for you, he feels entitled to praise or reward, like a small child or a puppy. If you do not reward or praise a psychopath, they feel that they have the right to hurt you. If they have been injured or dismissed in some way, they feel that it is their right to retaliate.
Remember, you do not have to follow them all the time to praise them. This is not normal for a relationship. It’s a sign that they’re trying to control how you feel about them at all times.
8. You are always in the centre of the action.
They love to be the centre of attention all the time. They are attractive, funny, have a relaxed attitude, they can be charming and charismatic, and they tend to make people think of themselves as something special.
They think and act as if they were the coolest, smartest and smartest person in existence, trying to make them all aware. This eventually turns into arrogance. They will tell you how amazing they are and how happy you are to be with them. Do not fall into this trap! Can you see through the act?
9. You know what you are doing at all times.
Do you feel that your partner is spying on you? Does he get angry if you do not answer or if you come home later than planned? Does he get jealous when he sees you talking to someone of the opposite sex? And then accuse you of fraud?
Despite all this, your partner is allowed to do whatever he wants whenever he wants, and if you feel you can not ask him, he definitely has control over you.
10. Things do not always seem to fit together.
When your partner tells you a story, some of the things he talks about do not seem to fit together. You do not believe that he is completely honest with you or tells you the whole story. When you say something, he gets angry with you.
So he starts to do everything he says, but he still finds a lot of mistakes with you. You begin to believe his lies, and if you do something wrong in his eyes, he punishes you for it. If he cheats on you, he lets you believe that it’s your fault to be “inadequate”.
If you catch them with a lie, psychopaths will simply spit out another one to cover up the last lie. So these people are easy.
11. Your partner is hurting animals.
A normal person treats people and animals with kindness and respect, regardless of their status. Did your partner hurt your cat or dog? Maybe he kicked your pet or threatened an animal? Does he show an aversion to animals in general?
If so, it can be a red sign that he has dark and disturbing thoughts. This is not normal behaviour and indicates a mental problem. Protect your animals when you are afraid that your partner might cause further damage.
12. Know if you have to go.
If your counterpart shows these signs, it’s a huge red flag. You will want to find a way to stay safe and secure while leaving the relationship slowly but surely. You deserve someone who loves you and treats you with huge respect. A psychopath can not love and respect you – do not settle for such a person!