10 tips to make a man realize your worth before it’s too late.
To be appreciated and admired by the other half. Surely it’s not too much to ask. So what happens when you feel like the man in your life doesn’t see your worth?
You feel underestimated and taken for granted. It’s time to increase your importance in the relationship. But how?
Here are 10 ways to let him know you’re valuable:
1. Know your own worth
Being 100% sure of your own worth is always the best way to get others in your life to see it too. The inner work of self-love will help you feel worthy to your core.
The more you do it, the easier and more natural it will feel to be around people who see you the same way. Once you turn on that inner light within, it shines brightly out for all to see.
2. Don’t keep texting him
It’s never been easier to feel connected than it is today. Countless texts, calls and posts on social media keep us constantly in each other’s lives. Of course, that can be a great thing.
But not always. Even if you’re not physically with him, you can still be in your man’s pocket 24/7. The problem, however, is that the other person becomes uninteresting – especially if they keep contacting you and you always know exactly what’s going on in their life.
3. Go your own way
Sometimes you do so much for someone and you silently pray that they will see your every effort and finally understand how valuable you are. Trouble is, the more you do, the more normal it becomes and the less he’ll appreciate it. If you’re doing everything for him and he still doesn’t see your worth, it may be time to back off on your efforts.
If you’re making him meals, doing his laundry, grocery shopping, doing most of the chores around the house, or countless other things, how will he react if you stop? If he doesn’t give, be careful not to chase after him. Go your own way.
4. Prioritize other things in your life
If you aren’t his top priority, then he shouldn’t be yours. When he stops thinking you’re sitting around waiting for him to call, his male ego will stand at attention.
The reality is that it is human nature to want something that we see as less available. How do you get a man to think about you all the time? By thinking about him less. Instead of taking your Friday night off hoping he wants to see you, make plans and don’t change them for him.
5. Let him know how you’re feeling
Being able to open up and talk honestly about how you’re feeling and what you need from your partner is crucial if you want to make it happen in the long run. Admitting how we feel is a vulnerable thing, but it’s also the most mature, sane, and constructive thing.
If a man ignores your worth, tell him, “We need to talk.” He may have no idea how you felt. But also give him a fair opportunity to make things right.
6. Stop being the driving force in your relationship
One-way relationships don’t work. You’re looking for a teammate, but if yours isn’t up for it, there’s no point. If you feel that a man doesn’t see your true worth, it indicates that you are currently trying a lot harder than he is.
This is unsustainable as you will be dissatisfied and upset over time until you just can’t take it anymore. Just let it go and you’ll see how quickly he takes control.
7. Set your limits
Sure, this tip should probably go without saying. But if you really like someone, you’ve probably let them get away with behavior that’s a total no-no. He cancels you at the last minute with a stupid excuse you know is a lie.
He’s still calling you to Netflix and chill, but he doesn’t want real dates. If you don’t draw a clear line about what is and isn’t acceptable to you, you might find that he walks all over your feelings and values you even less.
8. Have fun with your friends
Fun is a magical cure for many problems. First, going out with your friends takes your focus off him for a while.
The second important thing to have fun with is the energy to relax. People who have enjoyed life tend to be happier, more energetic, and more attractive. Positive energy is magnetic.
9. Focus on yourself
It’s easy to get tunnel vision into the world of romance. We can quickly focus all of our energy on someone else. The problem is that we are always only responsible for ourselves.
Wasting all your time thinking about him and how to get him to see your worth is a red herring. Build your self-esteem by bringing your attention back to yourself, and perhaps ironically, you’ll find that he’s probably paying more attention to you.
10. Practice saying no
Always saying yes, even when we prefer to say no, can become a bad habit for many of us. Especially people who like it can find it a special challenge.
You may worry that you are letting him down or if you say no, he will like you less. Not correct! Learning to say no confidently means understanding that it’s totally okay to do what’s best for you instead of always trying so hard to please him.